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Where I live, there's a law that says all vehicles have to yield for pedestrians at crosswalks. Of course this would be a thing, otherwise crosswalks would only be as good as any part of the road. Despite this, it's a largely unfollowed rule, to severe degrees. To the extent that me and some friends have a "running gag" (generous way to put it) where some of us bet on who can wait at a crosswalk point and cross the street the quickest without going ahead before cars decided to stop. Tonight I had to wait twenty minutes for a black jeep to stop, the longest I've had to wait for years (and side note, I noticed that drivers of certain vehicle types/colors are more likely to stop for you), so I lost that bet tonight if we were doing it.

Some of us have also apparently led drivers to having bad vibes because some of us have used our phones to take extensive video of what's going on, causing angry drivers (never referring to the ones that do stop for us) to yell that we're invading privacy. And the response is always something along the line of "what are you going to do, would you really risk exposing yourself just to make a complaint that someone is making a video" before posting them to groups like the main Tumblr road conflict group (such stuff being hidden from there at the moment).

So what's the longest you've ever had to wait to cross the street? And do you notice any etiquette trends like I describe in that one part?

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I make eye contact and just go, it's why I have life insurance.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep pretty much

Most people slow down when you're crossing, and so far everyone has eventually stopped

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That is the exact opposite of my experience.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are you writing from your grave?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

fortunately no, to the chagrin of many cars though.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In Norway you don't break stride as a pedestrian, so any number above 0 seconds is unusual at a zebra crossing. There's always this "oops I'm not in Norway anymore" moment i have as i consider trying the same shit in other countries.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

In Denmark cars only have to stop at zebra crossings if you walk.

So i just stare into the eyes of the driver and walk. Of course not if theyre too close, and wont be able to stop.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

That is not true. If a pedestrian is waiting in front of a zebra crossing, the cars have to stop.

It has been really complicated to teach our kids. Yes kids, the cars have to stop when you wait. No they usually do not actually stop, unless you look like you are going to walk out in front of them. No you don't walk out in front of them, that would be dangerous. Yes, you have to look like you are going to walk out in front of them, without actually doing it, unless you clearly see they are going to stop. And yes, you still have to be ready to jump back in case they don't actually stop, but just look like it.

Above is the reality. What it should be like: Kids, you stop and wait at a zebra crossing, then the cars stop on both sides, and then you cross.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

IIRC in Denmark any pedestrian who has taken a step onto the road should be treated as an invisible zebra crossing. It's only really taught at driving lessons in order to not risk making pedestrians lazy when checking for cars and go in harm's way.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Tonight I had to wait twenty minutes for a black jeep to stop

Now I'm picturing this jeep taking 20 minutes to decelerate, all the while you're just starring at them, wondering if they're ever actually going to come to a complete stop.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

If I did that, my luck would be good in a way considering it means I correctly guessed they wouldn't turn onto another road.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In any eastern European country, I simply look the driver dead in the eye and pass, if they're far enough to actually stop. However, whenever I visit Greece, especially Athens, not even the green light can save you. There is a running joke among Greeks and it goes along the lines of "stronger car wins". Basically, if you have a fast car, you have priority on any intersections and pedestrian crossings, and the police do jack shit about it.

Man, I love Greece, beautiful country, amazing people, but with disfunctioning police and government in general.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

As a German, I was amazed how well I could bully my way through traffic in Greece with a large van (I think it was necessary though since there were no apparent traffic rules).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I see you got the prime Greece experience. Well done my friend :)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

It was really nice there though. Just the traffic was really wild along the coast until we were in Croatia.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This unlocked a memory for me. In college my roommate and I took a late-night walk to a nearby diner, only a five minute walk from our dorm if jaywalking across one of the main streets in this town. Walking to the nearest crosswalk would more than double the trip, so patiently waiting for a break in traffic to safely cross was the norm.

On one weekend in particular, one of the other big colleges was having an event of some kind (homecoming or parents weekend, or some crap like that) that packed this town to the gills and turned the main street into a sea of cars as far as the eye could see in both directions. But don't picture everything at a stand-still... the nearby traffic light must have been shut off (or turned to a blinking yellow) because the sea of cars was moving at a slow but steady pace with no break whatsoever.

Walking the extra few minutes west to the crosswalk, and then a few more back east to the restaurant, would have been the best bet, but our experience told us it would be wasteful because there must be a break in the traffic coming soon. There just had to be. As the minutes rolled by more we were joined by more dorm neighbors and other hopeful crossers, and we all stood there incredulous at just how perfectly bad this situation was.

Just estimating here... we absolutely waited more than 20 minutes, possibly 30. And it's been so long I can't remember the circumstances that finally let us cross. Also, yeah, this is a great example of the sunk-cost fallacy.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

At some point drivers got afraid of the large crowd and didn't dare get close.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago

In the US, all intersections are considered crosswalks and vehicles are supposed to stop, even if the intersection is not marked as a crosswalk. Most people ignore this.

Anyway, the longest I've ever waited was the length of time it took for the light to change, so about two minutes.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Canadian here. In the province I grew up in vehicles yield to a pedestrian at a crossing (marked crosswalk or intersection).

Then I moved to Ontario for a co-op workterm. I was living with family and it was about a 30 minute walk to where I was working.

I was on my way home after my first day and crossing the street in a residential neighborhood when I stepped out in front of a lady who had stopped at a stop sign. I walked in front of the car and she beeped her horn. I thought we might be related since my cousins lived nearby so I looked at her and she was yelling at me in her car. I said "sorry" (I have no idea why) and as I turned to keep hustling she literally bumped me with her car before I could get out of the way (she had been creeping up). I was like wtf and just got out of there.

When I got home my cousin had a good laugh after I told him about this and he explained that pedestrians do not have the right of way (there are some towns and cities where they do, just not the one I was in).

I then proceeded to do lots of waiting at crosswalks.

[–] joby 18 points 1 year ago

Canadian here.

I said "sorry" (I have no idea why)

I may have a guess for you.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wait, I've never heard a situation where a pedestrian crossoing at an intersection with a stop sign down have right of way. Doesn't feel right

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Took me by surprise. I was in my mid-late-20s and had lived in a number of places in and out of Canada at that point.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I live in a rural area. The most I've ever had to wait was during a lunch rush one day. About 5 to 10 minutes or so.

I was standing there at a marked crosswalk and cars just kept on zooming by. I was even gesturing to the drivers like "hey! I'm here, I need to cross!" And then a cop car started to come up and stopped for me...which then made all the assholes that didn't stop for me stop for me on the other side of the road.

I don't live in that town anymore. The last time I visited, a huge portion of the town has been gentrified now. It looks like Los Angeles now, but the area of the town and the infrastructure they have can't support the amount of people living there.

6 generations of my family were born, raised and lived there. And now it's ruined. My childhood home has been torn down and replaced with 4 houses on the lot it was on. That whole neighborhood is like that now.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I live in a rural area. The most I’ve ever had to wait was during a lunch rush one day. About 5 to 10 minutes or so.

And here I thought rural areas would have less vehicles (and people) so that wouldn't be a thing. Meanwhile I don't think I've ever had to wait more than 2 minutes, and I'm in a super dense city!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I don't live in that town I spoke of anymore. The rural area I live in is one of those places where everyone knows everyone

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think the longest I've had to wait is for the light to change. Once the light flips red, the cars stop and I get a chance to walk (though it's too short imo).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'll let you in on something then, be very thankful for those lights because doing that somewhere without lights is a complete wild card.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Wtf??? 20 minutes? Omg.

For me: 30 seconds or so? Not long enough to count or remember. Had no idea this was a thing.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I've gone down the wrong street for like 10-15m to pretend I didn't need to cross so the vehicle approaching wouldn't need stop for me, then go back to cross after it passes lol

Sometimes it's just easier to let them go through if they're the only car than to wait for them to stop and then cross, but if you wait at the corner they stop.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I had the opposite experience once. In England you have to stop at crosswalks if there is someone there. I got stuck for a good 10-15 one time by a steady stream of pedestrians leaving some sort of touristy place.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Back in high-school there was a street I had to cross on my way to school and there were no traffic lights at that crosswalk. It was a high speed street and there were lights at major intersections before and after that crosswalk, so cars tended to just blow through it regardless of anyone waiting to cross.

The biggest problem was not waiting for a car to stop, it was a car stopping on the first lane, forcing me to start crossing, only for a car to come shooting through the second lane without wondering why the other is stopped. That's why I learned to avoid using the crosswalk, it was the most dangerous place to cross the street. I chose a place without a crosswalk where I could cross when I saw that both lanes are safe.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just walk and stare down anyone that tries to drive illegally

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Jeez, where do you live?

I'm in Canada and have never had to wait even remotely that long in any city I've been a pedestrian in. It's certainly a poorly followed law in that I'll regularly see people not stop even if they had tons of time, but the majority of drivers do stop. I don't think I've ever waited more than maybe a minute. I'd usually have to wait longer at a light than I would at an uncontrolled intersection or no-intersection crosswalk.

That said, the most annoying was in Saskatoon, where I went to university. There's a road going up to the university where there's a very long stretch with no controlled crosswalks until you get to the very end. I learned to just cross at the end (even if it meant needing to loop back) because crossing at an uncontrolled crosswalk in the middle was annoying. I would have often been on the top part of a T intersection and there were always parked cars, so being seen as trying to cross the road was the challenge there. But even then it usually wasn't more than a minute and crossing from the other side was a lot easier because it was so much more obvious that you were waiting to cross. It was also a 2 lane road, but usually when one direction stops, drivers in the other lane figure it out.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Just to the South of the border.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

A few seconds when the driver was not noticing me and just kept going. 99% of the time cars stop because that’s the rule.

Sometimes they stop even when there is plenty of time for them to go on without me slowing down. And that’s annoying because then I feel pressured to speed up. It’s like the people holding the door for you when you are still 20m away.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

...causing angry drivers (never referring to the ones that do stop for us) to yell that we’re invading privacy.

Except... they're in public. In a vehicle with transparent windows. πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

The rest of the paragraph makes that make sense.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Like a minute at most. And that's in my entire life, even in busy cities.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

We have now crosswalks with a flashing light - you press a button when you want to cross and it flashes, cars here do observe those, and our other crosswalks are at corners with stoplights so those cars will generally observe, though I have had to beat on the hood of cars making right-on-red turns.

Without any signals, I think you'd wait through rush hour here, no cars would stop. Which is probably why the city put in the signals.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Not more than a few seconds, thankfully.

I have had multiple situations in the past months where I almost got hit by a car while going over a crosswalk, but I guess, that's just the kind of risk you take, participating in traffic without an SUV.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Have you been to Vietnam? πŸ˜‚πŸ€£

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not yet, but I've seen footage of the traffic there.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

In my very limited (a couple of weeks) experience there, it's not that bad... except for when it is.

For smaller roads, traffic will kind of go around you as long as you keep a steady pace. For bigger roads, that's not feasible and it never really stops. I had to wait... I don't know maybe 10 minutes to cross a road like that once.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

In the US cars do not stop. Pedestrians have to wait for the cars to pass. Even at crosswalks with red lights you have to wait and make sure the cars stop because many will not.

I was floored the first time in Europe. Walking towards a crosswalk, not even quite there yet, and the cars would stop! It was glorious.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not sure where you are in the US, but that is definitely not my experience. Cars usually stop the moment I stop on the side of the road. At least In California

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

The US and Europe are both big places.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

0 seconds... not illegal to jaywalk here. Just look both ways and then cross

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

And do you notice any etiquette trends like I describe in that one part?

Absolutely, yeah, allthough it has little to do with type of vehicles and seems to be entirely down to location of the zebra crossing.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I'm in Panama, I wait until I'm frustrated enough that I get reckless.

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