It's a real shame, I started out with IPv6-only on my self hosted instance but then had to add a public IPv4 as I wasn't able to federate with any of the big instances.
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I'll let mine this way, someone has to be the first
can you try to browse anything from lemmy.fbmac.net from your instance to see if it works? I didn't find any other instance that it's able to federate yet
I've been contemplating spinning up lemmy in my infra which is also v6 only...good to know about this gotcha...it blows that this community is on an instance that won't federate over v6 though ://
All lemmy instances that I looked at have this problem. I gave up and used cloudflare for a while, and now I have an IPV4 machine that use haproxy and an ssh tunnel to forward everything to my server. The AAAA record points directly to my server
I'm not happy with this setup, but my instance wasn't very useful without connecting to anything else