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Having coffee, smth sweet and a followup cigarrete in the morning makes me happy to be awake. Or kiss goodbyes and hellos.

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[–] [email protected] 122 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Every night when we go to bed, whoever gets up and leaves the living room first gets to wish the other one "good luck with the lamps!". As in, turning off the lights. I have no idea why it started but it's been going on for years and years.

If we're watching a TV show and the last episode of the night is ending the whole atmosphere changes, we get super tense and both start trying to get ready to go without the other noticing and then we'll spring up and run for the door to be the one who doesn't have to have good luck with the lamps. If we were lying snuggling together on the couch, we'll literally wrestle to be first one up. I got him a custom printed mug with it on, and our first lamp is like our relationship mascot. It's just a whole thing.

We are middle-aged marrieds.

I expect one day, hopefully far in the future, as one of us peacefully passes away while the other holds their hand and gazes tearfully into their eyes, regardless of which of us it is their last words will be "good luck with the lamps".

[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That sounds absolutely mental in the most wholesome way haha.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

Yeah pretty much

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I've been replacing our light switches with smart switches. We tell Alexa good night and she turns off all the lights and locks the doors. I'm chuckling at the idea of telling Alexa "good luck with the lamps!"

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We actually tried this! Tried to get her to say "Good luck with your lamps" as the reply because we're British and terminally sarcastic like that, but ofc she doesn't really do tone so it was underwhelming.

We turned it off and went back to the old fashioned way πŸ˜‚

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

That is the cutest thing ever.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

We do this with the dog. He refuses to move. He needs to go out and then coerced upstairs to bed. It's a real hassle. So whoever is last has to deal with it. I'll leave a show halfway through just so I don't have to deal with him. Spoiled diva

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[–] [email protected] 90 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Every morning before I go to the kitchen for breakfast, I call out my bunnies, lie down in my bed, and have them jump on top of my chest to ask for food. I'd give them some pellets for breakfast right there and watch their little moufs chew for 10 minutes, then depending on their mood I'd either pet them for a bit, or watch them jump and zoom around the room.

This is almost always the best part of my day; every day I wake up half an hour before I'm supposed to, just so that I can do this :)

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Bunnies are the best. I give mine a kiss everyday before work.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

This is so wholesome! What a fun ritual.

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[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My nerdy dad liked to tell us to "watch out for orcs!" dropping us off places. I carried on the tradition, and even though he passed a couple years ago I get to enjoy his joke since my SO and I say it to each other all the time, or variations of it. If its a water related destination I like to evolve it to "watch out for orcas!"

We've been playing Baldurs Gate 3 lately so its been "watch out for mind flayers!" a couple times, but the point is just a silly reference to something we love, just to add some goofy fantasy to an otherwise normal day. I like to imagine Orcs popping up irl in goofy ways when I hear it, like one charging the car while I wait for the atm thinking its some great metal beast. Or taking all yhe ground beef at the grocery store for a "great feast!" Plus one box of twinkies. Dumb shit like that :)

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[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (2 children)

visiting a nearby cat colony every single day before work. The cats have gotten used to me and I get to play with a lot of them everyday

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

EVERY day? What a way to start your day. Sounds awesome!

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[–] [email protected] 54 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Every morning my cat needs to play follow leader (she's the leader of course) for a few minutes. She leads me around the house to make sure I see all the things she rubs her face on. Then she'll jump up on the cat tree for pets and her morning pill. It's probably close to a 10 minute ritual we go through everyday.

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I leave food and water out for the local birds, and sit outside under a beautiful big tree, and birds come up, eat the food, have a drink and a bath/splash around, then some of them land on me and we have a chat. I actually get a lot more sense out of those interactions than I do with any human where I am, so it really helps. One little goober gets a crazy look in the eye, then (most of the time) gently bites my finger and half rolls over. So I roll him/her over and tickle the belly. It's hard to stay grumpy when you start your day like that!

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's sweet. Don't birds relieve themselves in the vicinity due to this?

Love Mr Little Goober

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I trained most of them to aim their tail feathers away before they do, but yes, sometimes it just gushes out when it gushes out. They're wild birds, it's part of the package. But I do put a towel on my lap, so that makes things easier. Also no scratches on the legs if the birds decide to fight each other on my lap. They do that especially in spring, when the hormones are fluctuating.

I call all of them goobers, so "Mr Goober" is called Derfred. It is the goofiest bird I have ever seen. I suspect it might've hit a window or car or something at some stage and stayed a bit silly. Derfred even bites and climbs on other birds, just playing. But the other birds aren't always prepared to put up with it haha. Poor thing. But Derfred is healthy and happy.

Here are names I've given to some of the other birds:

  • Signore Salieri (has an unusually large beak and high "hair line")

  • Mr Faith No More (actually a girl, but looks a lot like Mike Patton. Sounds dumb but I swear it's true).

  • Mr Roy (has a rainbow-ish pattern on the head. Full name is Roy G. Biv).

  • Cleopatra (a lady bird who gets a lot of attention from the boys, and takes no prisoners. She's always very nice to me, though)

  • Mr Blackbottom (he has a large black patch on his lower beak - completely harmless. Beaks are black as juveniles, then the black gradually fades as they get older).

  • The Scream (a girl bird who enjoys landing on my arm, staring me square in the eye, flapping her wings and screeching at me. No other reason than to chat/play. Weirdo).

  • John Deere (when I sing or talk, this goober stares at me like a deer in the headlights. As if I am threatening it. It knows full well I'm not threatening it, just a bit of a drama queen).

There are more but I can't remember them right now.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

Oh my god youre the bird whisperer. Love your naming capabilities.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (7 children)

I always make sure I say "I love you" to family members, when we part. It's a tiny thing, but you never know when something could happen to either of you.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (5 children)

That's sweet, Ive only said that to my gf and I cringe at the idea of ever saying that. Saying it to one person is tough enough I can't imagine saying it to anyone else. That's a really nice habit to have!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I sadly lost my nan, unexpectedly a while back. It's a significant comfort to know some of the last words I spoke to her were "I love you both".

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

It takes a bit of practise to get over the awkwardness. But it's totally worth it.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago

No matter how hectic her morning, if I make myself a coffee, i bring it over so my SO can have a sip.

She loves coffee but can't deal with too much caffeine.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When giving hugs, I never let go first. Though I let go promptly when the other person does. You never know much of a hug the other person needs.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Imagine another person like you, just 2 people stuck in an endless hug waiting for the other to let go first

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago

Don’t act like that wouldn’t make you happy.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I've been in a bad place lately and I kind of needed this. Thank you... At first I didn't know how to answer this question.

Going to bed and calling the cats in to sleep with us. Some one always goes in the 'leg basket'. When I wake up I pet anyone around, kiss the S.O. and start my day.

It's not everyday but I leave sticky notes around with sayings or love notes for the S.O. I enjoy everything about this.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago (2 children)

When I get home from work, I ask my dogs about their day and they freak tf out. I love it. My beagle gets especially wound up over it.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (6 children)

When we drive over train tracks, we have to lift our feet so we won't get caught on the tracks. We'll be mid conversation and then both of us are lifting our feet all silly like.

Note the driver only does this when it's safe to do so. If traffic is slow or stopped on the other side, we're not just going to rear end anyone.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I has a friend once who would press his hands to the roof of the car when crossing tracks. It got to be a thing in the circle of friends, and eventually it got so he'd get irate if someone in the car didn't do it. I was sure he'd gotten it from a movie.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A nice manly bubble bath lol

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Morning hugs with my partner, very first thing when I wake up. I tend to curl up to them and stay there for at least 5 - 10 minutes before starting my day.
I'm an early bird, but they're a heavy sleeper so usually they don't mind :)

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (11 children)

I like my morning ritual a lot. After I brush my teeth, I shave, and then I have a coffee before I get dressed.

I used to hate shaving, just an annoying chore that gave me razor burn and bumps, that I had to do because I can't grow a beard. So I switched to an old style double sided blade safety razor. Yup, like your grandpa. Yes, they still make those. I also got a badger brush for lathering, and I make a ritual of it. When I start, it's like "ok, it's time for something pleasant that I can't rush, and I will do it, and I will enjoy it". And you know what? I do enjoy it. The old timey razor irritates my skin a lot less, the result is better and smoother, and I like how the brush feels on my face. I feel like I look good when I'm done.

And I got a nice coffee machine, and good coffee, and I take the time to enjoy it before I leave for work.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

Having free time to cook something decent for myself. That and experimenting on dishes and succeeding of course lol. Even if it fails, I still learned something.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

I always make time to sit outside at night during a full moon. It’s one of the most peaceful sights, for me at least.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Talking to the plants I help maintain. They seem to like it.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Jerking off every morning to get me going.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When my fiancΓ©e goes to work, she leaves at 6am. I'm usually asleep still so she wakes me for a kiss goodbye. I reply with sleepily with "drive safe, I love you". If I'm to sleepy to say drive safe I worry 'what if today she is in an accident, and I didn't say it'. So I bought her a key tag thing that says it, so I know ive got myself covered incase I'm too sleepy

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Coming home from work, having a little snack, a glass of tea, sitting in my chair, and playing a few games of euchre on my iPad

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

My coffee and ammonium cloride laced licorice lollypop after dinner, while watching youtube.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Pretty simple: Every morning I watch at least one episode of a light headed tv show. Always start with something good in the day.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Rolling a joint then smoking it. It’s a ritual I repeat a lot… it’s pretty stupid but it does make life a bit easier to handle.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Making coffee and or tea. Organising my tool box.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

Letting my hair air dry with a morning walk after showering.

Stretching before sleep and then again in the morning.

Enjoying some tea and good food while catching up on YT.

Combining booze and difficult games.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Putting my bracelet on that my family gave me every time I leave the house. It makes me feel as if they're with me.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Making coffee by grinding the beans and using an Aeropress.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Seeing the ocean on my regular commute.

It used to be 50c chicken wings night at my local pub, but I moved away

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Cigarettes are kinda cool, till they fucking kill you :(

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I cut my own hair once a year and then watch it change with the seasons

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