Every ex-girlfriend is "crazy."
To be fair, off meds at the time, I am actually someone's crazy ex.
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Haha hear you there! The odd one is fine though it's not a pattern
They clearly have a negative stereotype of women in their minds, and that's the lens through which they judge the behavior of all women. So if a woman forgets something, it's because "women are airheads". If a woman is upset about something, it's because "women can't control their emotions". And if a woman is good with kids, it's because "women like children, that's just natural".
And when a woman behaves counter to his preconceived ideas, she's a bitch.
This is a good one! It says a lot
When all examples they ever give for anything consist completely of men.
Have you ever looked into a reddit post on a topic like "Who are the best actors of all time?" Thousands of comments, nearly all male actors. "Worst actors?" Also all men. "Examples of this trope?" Only scenes with men. Stock photos or drawn figures to illustrate their point? You guessed it – all men (unless it's sexist in another way).
For some men we just don't exist as people of equal significance.
Yeah, a "men are the rule, women are the exception" mindset really tells a lot.
Indeed, when I started at my current job there was a Anglophile guy who was really into the Beatles and other "classic rock" groups. Being from an English speaking country he was keen to talk to me, at length, about music.
After a while I noticed that he never mentioned any groups that even had one woman in the lineup, I started asking his opinion about the likes of Janis Joplin and Heart, and he just kind of locked up.
He will now say a frosty hello to me if I prompt him directly, but that's about it ... he has two daughters who don't talk to him apparently.
I've started seeing a few more comics/memes which have women as the representative of a universal experience (rather than, as you say, representing a sexist trope) and it's absurd how happy it makes me.
This might be a bit pedantic, but if they're asking about "actors" that usually implies they're asking about males. So if you're seeing only male actors in response that's probably not so much sexism and just people just responding accurately to the question being posed.
If they phrased the question as "Who are the best actors/actresses of all time" and people still only came up with male actors then okay yeah.
I did not mean to make it seem like I was quoting a specific question word for word, it was more about the general concept, however it is worded. It might be worded as you put it or not be about actors. Or like my example be more generally about movie scenes. Or...
Unlike my native language, English is usually ungendered and I sometimes forget that there are some few exceptions to that rule.
Here in the South a telltale sign seems to be when they talk shit about their wife with their friends, it's like a point of commiseration that seems to generalize to misogyny, the whole "women, eh?".
Refers to women as females
That's a good one! Immediate red flag
Bitterness in the tone, even if it's just for a second. Maybe a slight eyebrow raise or almost eye roll as well.
No patience with women having trouble with driving, DIY or other things women are more likely to struggle with.
Often makes disparaging remarks about famous women, for example tears apart a politicians views or ridicules a female performer. Doesn't seem to do that with men.
Wait, are we more likely to struggle with driving? lol
Haha should have said we're believed to struggle with driving
I mean, I'm a pretty terrible driver but it's not like my uterus is doing the steering!