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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

The best moment in my life (please do not take this as advice because it is strongly not) involved recreational drugs and the reason it was the best was because I experienced a shift in perspective that had long-lived impacts on the rest of my life.

I will not be taking questions or responding to guesses. I won't say "don't do drugs" because I'm not a hypocrite, but I will say, be smart, be careful, be wise, look to your elders.

The second-best was when I played minigolf with my boyfriend on a 3 day weekend. I smile every time I think about it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago

watching the birth of my kids were the best moments in my life, the worst was (so far) when i divorced. i realized that there's life after the divorce, but i'm their parent forever. the best moments so far outweights the worst by a large margin.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago

I mean good moments are just things like "romantic moment with someone who ghosted me a year later", or "meeting a baby relative who I see three times a year". Don't get me wrong, they're lovely and important moments, but there aren't moments so good they change a person's day-to-day life.

But bad moments obviously impact your life every day. You can't walk correctly anymore. Someone you love is dead. You botched an opportunity so you'll never escape poverty. Et cetera. Those moments obviously have a bigger impact because every single moment afterwards is determined by them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

The best moments in my life, are not the Happy ones, but the spiritual ones.

Driving with the bike at 2am to a field and lying there with noone being around in kilometers. I think thats where I had the most charactee development done, where I could filter out and learn from bad moments and be happy about them and appreciate happy days.

Pain was the only factor driving this, so in conclusion, the worst moments in my life made me the happiest person I could ever be. But the happy days are important too, to not think life is unfair and unbalanced. Its both, but worse moments will have a bigger impact than Happy moments.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 hours ago

The best moments of my life have mostly been fleeting and mostly inconsequential. The worst moments have mostly had long term consequences.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

The best moments kind of help me coping with my worst one.

[–] yuki 4 points 16 hours ago

Definitely the worst, because I can hardly recall a great moment of my life, not to say the best...

But I think I am pretty pessimistically subjective about my experience because of depression out of trauma of the worst moment.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 17 hours ago

I'm not sure I've ever had a "best moment".

My worst moment is probably that time when I defended myself against a bully in highschool and got arrested and I was in the police station for a few hours. Charges were eventually dropped. But I fucking hates those pigs. They didn't investigate shit, they just took the words of the school administration and the bully.

ACAB, never trust the pigs.

I hate almost every "cop" character in Movies and Tv.

I wanted to watch The Wire but then there was a scene were the cop told his subordinates to lie. So I just stopped watching.

And in Stranger Things...

Season 4 SpoilerEleven fought her bully and got arrested. Like I can't even continue watching the bullying scene, I just read the plot and its fucking infuriating

[–] [email protected] 2 points 14 hours ago

Hmmm I'd say that the worst felt/feels at times, like an electric shock that keeps going until it disipates and I can stop and sob for a bit so I can sort of function after it.

The best felt like a burst of heat and warmth that first time and now the memory of it feels like basking in the sun while humming something nice.

So I think they are both impactful in different ways. One completely incapacitates me because of how awful it was but the other gives me strength to keep on loving my life and keep finding the beauty in everyday things.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

The worst moments of my life seem to have been catalysts for the best ones. So, I guess the bad ones.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

I second that. A simple attempted lunge out of misery does wonders. Shit can go down like an avalanche. But that works in both directions.

…with a lot of luck.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago

I can remember the best moment when the worst moment hurts me so I’d say the best has more impact.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

I can't think of a best moment, though I've had a life that has gotten better over time, lots of good & great moments, none stands out as best.

Which leaves the worst moment, so I guess as an individual point it made a bigger impact.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago

I don't know? They both pretty much shaped and changed my life from the moments they happened onwards...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 22 hours ago

The best moment of my life by far.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

By "impact" do you mean that it has made a change in me or in my life, or that I still remember it every day? Or maybe both?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Hmmm, in that case... I guess the worst.

But it's funny, because that bad moment felt like I was sinking, but on a springboard to new heights; while the best moment so far feels like a beautiful view from above everything.

And for the moment, I'm still going up.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago

Great to hear, keep on rising.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

Since the best moment of my life was probably snuggling with my wife post-coitus while eating pie; I suppose the worst moment has a bigger impact, in that I was upset about it for most of a week.