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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (29 children)

Contract signed, deposit paid. Mad Kermit arms flailing!!!!

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (8 children)

Anniversary this week. 26 years with useful_modern_godess. Ooof.

EDIT: thank you DT peeps πŸ₯‚

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Mickey is so tolerant. He was incessantly scratching one of his ears, as if something was in there. So I told him "I'm going to grab my phone for the torch, and I'll have a look puss".

He trotted to the tiles in the kitchen and flopped on his side so his problem ear was facing up. I was able to have a look, and noticed one of his body hairs was stuck in there. He let me gently tweeze it out and he's been so happy since.

He is so fucking smart.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Beware of cats like that. First comes the flopping closely followed by world domination.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

What a good boy.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Not sure exactly what I'm doing today but I know it involves a huge batch of mushroom sauce and some pretty big lasagnas. So πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™πŸ«™ hey there's no emoji for lasagna! Why haven't I realised this before?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Oooh next payday imma gonna get an arseload of mince and get my bolognaise on. Freeze it up for winter and we can food prep sketties, lasagna, quesadillas, etc etc

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (5 children)

If you live on floor 4 of an apartment building in the city and you're currently cooking up something lemony/spicy/smoky/meaty, please invite me over for dinner. The smell entering the elevator when the doors opened on your floor was ambrosial.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (6 children)

Looks like Reservoir is affordable, easy to get to Brunswick and Coburg and to work.

Will go have a look the next couple of days at a few places. Really wanted Brunswick but if I don't get a pay rise that ain't happening.

I think the work stuff is affecting me. I feel really down and out but no real reason. I guess this is what toxic workplaces do.

Edit:

She's using the new cat tree

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Beware of Fawkner & Dallas. They look close but the agents are likely putting lipstick on the pig's butt hole.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (7 children)

I know about Dallas. But is fawkner really that bad? I already sleep with a kitchen knife under my mattress within easy reach.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

we're at the point today where we've got the doors open but both of us working from home with cats free ranging and mingling under supervision please don't make us regret this please don't make us regret this it's been six weeks I want my house back

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Have spoken to more people today. They're bailing. The director has set an all hands meeting for Tuesday, where she will no doubt tell everyone she's leaving.

Morale is non existent at the moment. Regardless of negotiations, im here till I move house. Then I'm out.

Unless the interview i have Monday comes through. Then it's worth living in the middle of nowhere for another 6 months.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Tonight's beach adventure:

spoiler


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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

Spoke to some more people at work today. They're all interviewing for other places.

Far out.

Maybe this will play in my favour. We'll see.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago

Thanks for all the well wishes yesterday with the doggo. He had surgery yesterday, and the vet said it went well. πŸ’›πŸ’›

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Just paid $200 so I can take a four hour test to say I have the literacy and numeracy skills to be a teacher. They threw in an "online convenience fee" too. First time I've ever seen that one πŸ™‚πŸ₯²

Then I need to do some hunting for some placement clothes that actually fit.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (5 children)

I've been sitting down all of 4 minutes and already my resolve for no coffee is being tested.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (6 children)

You've got more guts than me, Tiny. I'm trying to do one coffee only per day, and drink more of the many teas I've collected in my kitchen. I usually have 2 in the morning and occasionally one in the afternoon.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Don’t you open that trap door!
You are a fool if you dare!
Stay away from that trap door!
β€˜Cos there’s something down there!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I tried tofu for the first time today. Honestly, I'm a pretty big fan. I didn't try it in anything fancy, just a small fried rice. I wasn't sure I was like it, but tbh I don't think I would've noticed anything wrong if they told me it was a chicken fried rice

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (6 children)

I got bad family news in early November. Another death. It was somebody else that I never got to meet, but was directly and quite closely related to me

I've been thinking about it for a few months, and have even brought it up with my psych, but nothing's really helped. It's weird because I know that I'm meant to feel something, and indeed do feel something, but it's unidentifiable and not overwhelming emotion

Apparently 2 days before he died, he tried to get in contact with me through child protection. Because of bureaucracy, I didn't find out about it until over 2 weeks later. That made it worse. Nobody knows what the message was, but trying to contact me was one of the last things he ever did :/

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I am done for the day, sadly later than I'd hoped as I did not pick up the pace much in the afternoon. Now I must battle the tennis crowds to get out of here. So hungry. Might have a pizza tomorrow as a treat

E: that's gonna be a will have pizza tomorrow as a treat. Esp if it's another long day like today - but hotter. Even though my pants are definitely tighter

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (12 children)

I'm putting this under a NSFW, as it may be triggering for some of us. Concerns a situation that I've become aware of at work. I'm not sure I have all the details either. But there's a moral dilemma here that I would welcome some feedback on.

messy divorce caseA really messy divorce case. Husband accused by wife of child abuse, which he denies. Kids (2 aged 6 & 9) have been examined by psychs and doctors and don't show signs of abuse. Barring a claim by the elder child that Dad won't let him have more than one fizzy drink per day. Both kids are scared shitless of their mum, who is a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic who refuses to take medication. When in her custody, kids have twice taken themselves down to the Salvos begging for shelter overnight. Kids now in husband's custody exclusively, and doing well in school.

Wife has sprayed accusations of child abuse across several forms of social media targeting : 1) husband, 2) her dentist, 3) kids' doctor, 4) her doctor, 5) two teachers at the kids' school, 6) four of her neighbours. All 'targets' have been investigated by the police specialist unit, and all except one have been cleared of any such crimes.

However, the dentist, doctors, and the teachers have all been sacked from their place of employment, and the dentist's wife has been forcefully requested to resign from her tennis club and other social groups. And none were re-instated when the accusations turned out not to have any evidence supporting them.

One neighbour is still under investigation, but the others have been cleared. I don't know if there's been any further effects on them.

Given that several of the accused persons have suffered very real financial and social harm from accusations that may never be truly forgotten so long as the web exists. And they will be under suspicion for the rest of their lives and probably their families as well. Even though they've been cleared of wrongdoing.

Question for the DT hive mind : should the wife (who is clearly a very damaged person) be sued for libel/damages for her accusations? Has she committed a crime here? Should she get some sort of penalty for making false accusations? Or should she get off scot free because she's mentally ill and presumably not in full control of her actions?

Yes I've muddied up some of the details for privacy reasons, but the basic dynamics are as accurate as I can make them.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (5 children)

sued for libel/damages for her accusations?

Yes!

Has she committed a crime here?

Thats for a court to decide

Should she get some sort of penalty for making false accusations?

In my opinion ABSOLUTELY! you can run about destroying peoples lives and get away with it. Illness or not.

Or should she get off scot free because she’s mentally ill and presumably not in full control of her actions?

Fuck no! I'm deeply sorry for her troubles, but those people shouldn't suffer due to false accusations. its not about her suffering, its about the victims being about to point to a court verdict and say "I am not, nor was I EVER a child abuser".

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Fucking aye!!!

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

This needs to be pursued. A public record of the falsity will be significant in preventing future damage caused by misconceptions. Probably don't expect monetary recompense, she may be Judgement Proof in that regard, but the ruling is worth much more.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don’t know what avenues are there but as someone who works in education, if I was ever accused of those things my career would be over and I would probably never get a job in the education sector ever again even if it was found everything was false as my reputation would be be in tatters within the community.

That’s just my take on things and what has been reiterated to me if I was ever accused of sexual misconduct with a minor in my work environment whether it was true or not.

If there was any action to take it would be loss of income, defamation issues and all future income from not being employable, I would pursue if there was a righteous case and damages to be won in compensation for not being employable.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

this headache is just about approaching "bail from work" levels, but I have a psych appointment after work so I cant go home to come back in. And there is a not 0 change the headache is due to stress so its pretty necessary.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

HEY ! HO ! LETS FUCKIN GO !

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

super tired and have migraine, think I will have a lie down

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

ta da, tried on an old pair of jeans and they fit again πŸ™‚ now to get into even smaller jeans and pants , maybe even some blouses that are way too tight

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Took melatonin last night. Woke up with a headache and drowsiness. Read some papers and it turns out the optimal dosage is 0.3 mcg according to some. I probably ended up taking 1.5mg. Ya live and ya learn.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

bankaust appears to have shat out o joyyyyy

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Joy for the world, the banks are dead
Let earth be rid of them
The cost of living crisis
Home and loans denied us
To hell with finance bros
To hell with finance bros

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Phrase you might not have heard in real life:

β€œWalking around money”

I love this phrase. Similar to β€œpocket moneyβ€œ

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