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[–] [email protected] 24 points 4 days ago (8 children)

Why there are many transfem/femboys associated with computer stuff? I'm genuinely curious.

[–] python 2 points 2 days ago

My (maybe controversial) theory is that software engineering is a deeply creative and self-expressive field, more closely related to art and literature than to the "hard" sciences. But it has the clear upside that it isn't stigmatized like Art & Literature, so getting into it isn't met with the same amount of scrutiny & criticism, especially for people who present in a masculine way.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Neuroconvergance since it keeps occuring.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago

Not so divergent now, are ya???

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago

my theory is that trans people are drawn to the internet and therefore, by chance, technology, because it's easier to freely choose how to present and find a safe space

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

computer people don't do sports --> muscle atrophy --> slim --> already looks more like a girl --> easy to transition

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago

Someone should do a study into this, I'm genuinely curious why there's such a huge association (me included :3)

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 days ago

Many get into computers when they are younger and before they realize they are girls, they continue doing it after they come out because they like it and/or it pays well.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

Both? I agree!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Because it's awesome and cool, is there really a better reason? That's the reason I'm into computer stuff, and also why I'm a femboy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

Sorry, I didn't get it.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Person below yours just did:
https://sh.itjust.works/comment/15095872

Also it's better to link it like [email protected] since it works for people on remote instances.

[–] python 106 points 5 days ago (6 children)

To be fair though, thigh highs are really nice to calm down restless leg, so sometimes they actually are pretty good for programming

[–] [email protected] 61 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Can't believe you'd suggest that's the only way thigh-highs would be good for programming, I'm insulted

[–] python 82 points 5 days ago (6 children)

They do also hook your brain up to the girl-matrix, allowing you to tap into the shared brainpower of all other thigh-high wearers for your programming. But that's common knowledge, so I didn't feel like I had to mention it

[–] [email protected] 34 points 5 days ago (1 children)

That explains it. I made it through the entire Eaternet, the bread board computer, 6502; all that. But pipelines and out of order instructions of the girl-matrix are just beyond my registers.

[–] python 18 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Yeah, sometimes it's more trouble than it's worth. The girls keep transpiling my perfectly fine Javascript code to Rust >:(

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Very nice programming socks :3

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago

Imagine having someone who also really enjoys computers and Linux and doesn't judge you for presenting fem and also is snuggly couldn't be me :3 anyone else in the state of utah? /hj

[–] [email protected] 54 points 5 days ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 61 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Shakespear rolling in his grave because even he used singular they...

[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I don't get it , I'm French btw

[–] [email protected] 46 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Instead of "s/he is" you can say "they are", even though it's singular. "They" is the preferred pronoun for any situation where gender is unclear or (usually, but not always) for non binary people.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Oh sorry I brutaly translated this from French where we say" iel " (contraction of "Elle" and "il" our feminine and masculine pronoun). I already saw they but I didn't thought about it.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 days ago (1 children)

It's all good! The fact that you want to be inclusive is great. They have a contraction for nonbinary pronouns in french? that's awesome.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Well, it's a neopronoun, so while it's popular enough for most people to understand what it means, in my experience "iel" sadly gets a lot of pushback ("oh but we don't do that in French" etc.) which means it's rarely used in contexts other than to refer to non-binary people who have expressed a preference for "iel".

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago (10 children)

Plot twist: They're a they/them user and you just misgendered them either way.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 days ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 19 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I love them, they are so cute. I hope the other the people liked OOP's outfit even though it was a mistake that they posted there.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago

Looks more functional than OOP to me

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 days ago

You slay girl!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago
[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 days ago

no wait don't go!

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Hmm, does clothing up as a girl really feel that good?

[–] [email protected] 28 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

As someone who doesn't get the gender feelies at all, dresses and sarongs are cool (as in, good for warm weather). High socks are so amazing that everyone wore them for much of the middle ages (they're warm!). Called hosen wool socks and a tunic was ordinary commoner attire. (And yes, your nethers and janglies were free to the open air underneath. Laundry without machines was too labor intensive for non-nobles to have underwear.)

Makeup is weird, but looking amazing is fun. (My experience with it was on stage, and putting on eyeliner was hard to do without flinching.)

While I can appreciate a cool tool (say tweezers with a magnifying lens attached) tactical stuff painted black doesn't make sense in contrast to stuff painted a bright color that can easily be seen (on the assumption that I'm not in combat hidden in cover), bright pink is fine except when everything else is also bright pink. (A lot of beach dayglo colors are meant to be well offset against the ocean greens and blues).

Now that's on the practical side. Some folks get a HUGE buzz from representing according to their gender identity. Trans folk know this because wearing the stuff they like is [regarded by others as] weird in contrast to the stuff that mom bought them while they were growing up, so they've had cause to actually explore this aspect of themselves.

But there are guys who like to double down on butchness and gals who like getting ready for the night out more than the going out, itself. And then there are dudes who, no matter how masculine they represent, feel inadequate and wussy, which likely informs alpha male rhetoric and the far-right man-o-sphere pundits.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

I'm the same way, I don't get gender feels either 🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤, and I would very much agree with most of this except the part about having contrasting colors. I do think that having bright colors in contrast with darker ones does look cool, even if it is less practical.

I'm also not really a big fan of makeup, it feels very weird. Maybe I'd be okay with it if I wanted/needed to look a certain way for some kind of performance or special event but otherwise I'd just rather keep my face clean.

Edit: Okay who downvoted this, someone upset that I'm unapologetically Agender? Well get used to it bitch I'm not sorry about who I am, and certainly not in LGBTQ friendly spaces.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

Would definitely recommend it. Especially thigh highs, they are very comfy.

CC: @[email protected]

[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Personally I think so, especially thigh highs, they are very comfy. Oversize hoodies are also very nice as well.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 days ago

Yes I like them

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 days ago

no wait... I'am I N T E R E S T E D

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