Well I guess I can kiss the idea of official HRT, Voice, and Bottom surgery goodbye in the near future, not like I could afford those last two anyway. Hopefully I won't have to look for a new supplier, I have plenty stocked up just in case but you never know.
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I'm Canadian. But my trans sister and her wife live in Oregon. They're planning to visit our parents in December. Hopefully the wheels of fascist government change grind slow enough for them to still get out. I'm not religious, but I'm praying all of you are safe in the months to come.
If it's any consolation, Oregon, Washington and California are probably the three safest states to be in for trans folks right now. I don't know how long that will last, but it will be more time than people in red states.
Probably the three safest states
If you're in an urban centre. The boonies are still very red. And they're in the boonies. About 45mins out of Port Orford.
The biggest misconception about "the South" is that its contained to the South. Culturally, "the South" is everywhere more than 20-30 minutes out of any population center.
It's a symptom of one of the great things about America. The freedom of movement.
Also a symptom of living in isolated conditions. As a generalisation, living in a major metropolitan area means being exposed to a load of different types of people. Can't hate all black/LGBTQ2S+/Muslim/Asian folk when you interact with them every day.
Unfortunately we're pretty tribal by nature. Always looking for the other to be against.
Also, I understand what you're trying to say and that you put it in quotations but saying that culturally the south is 20-30 minutes outside of a population center is entirely inaccurate. Those kinds of blanket statements leave no room for nuance and feeds into stereotypes. A better thing to say is rural areas, red areas, trump territory, etc.
saying that culturally the south is 20-30 minutes outside of a population center is entirely inaccurate
I dont know if there is any baggage on the idea of "Southern culture" im missing, but from what i can tell, its accurate.
People in (at least) the poorer suburbs still make (what got labeled as) "trash food", like casorols.
In the country but also the wooded suburbs, deep red households put up large banners supporting trump.
The TV companies broadcast old reruns of westerns for people like my grandma in the small towns.
Go 20 to 30 miles from the heart of the major cities and you risk finding farmland.
Southern culture is not what you just mentioned. It is most definitely not a monolith as you're describing it.
There are a lot of sub regions of the south (such as southern Appalachian, south Atlantic, Cajun, etc). They are all very different from each other and while there are some similarities, there are a lot of differences too. One is in the way we speak. There are even varieties in southern accents. Lotta times you can tell what social class and region someone is from in the south based on their accent. Another is in the widely differing southern culinary practices. It's not the monolith the media likes to paint it as.
And culturally the south is also very different in a lot of ways. There is a strong culture of respect to elders and using your manners compared to most other places in the US. Despite what you see on the media, people tend to be non confrontational and being direct is not considered polite. If someone has an issue it's usually talked about when the person is away or in a quiet tone. People are a lot less scheduled and regimented, as well as being friendlier with strangers even in the cities. I had genuine culture shock after I moved to rural new england for the first time. It was such a contrast. I could go on and on about the specifics of southern culture if you're interested in that.
I encourage you to read up on just how rich and diverse southern culture is. You didn't say this directly, but by associating it solely with far right (presumably white) cishet MAGA Americans it actively diminishes the queer, people of color, and leftists who also are southerners and are proud of their culture. There's a lot more of us than the media and Hollywood likes to portray it as. There is also a lot more cultural baggage to being a southerner when outside of the south because of history and media portrayal and people have a myriad of assumptions just because someone is from there. I've definitely experienced it.
I would encourage you to visit and see for yourself but yeah, it's getting unsafe right now. The government is shitty, corrupt, and bigoted. I don't know if I'll be able to return home and visit my family and community (that I cherish) after trump takes office because I am trans. That doesn't make me love my home any less. My point is, southern culture is not defined by being a rural, lower class MAGA person.
Another misconception about "the South" is that it is a monolith. Even in supposedly deep red states there are big areas that are blue and not all of them are urban. Unfortunately those areas tend to be heavily gerrymandered and do not have as much power as they should.
Damn. I have found it impossible to get citizenship in Canada, despite so many saying it's easy.
If they are unable to escape to Canada, a move to the Portland area or maybe even Tacoma or Marysville would be the next safest (and somewhat affordable) places in my opinion.
Anyone who says it's easy to get citizenship or immigration status for any western country is either lying or doesn't have a clue.
Depending on how things go in the States, refugee status might be doable. That said it's looking more and more like the Tories might get in power, which means Canada might not be all that much safer...
Trump doesn’t take office this year. That’s not to say there won’t still be effects this year, but before January most things should still be relatively unchanged by his hands.
I'm dearly hoping that the whackjobs don't decide to just kick it off early. I had a really bad panic attack this morning. I'm a bit better now, but still trying to stop feeling like today has been the start of a massive existential crisis.
Thank you for being prepared.
Hugs from a German sister. It is unbelieveable. I am sad and lost for words.
Copying my comment from another thread:
I don't know what I can do to help anyone, are there any organisations which directly protect, or perhaps help relocate at risk trans people that I can throw money at?
I had a look through the listed resources but nothing jumped out to me, perhaps I missed something though.
I'm on my phone right now so sorry for the short reply. Will expand when I get the chance (other people please pitch in).
TransLifeline used to offer microgrants until they ran into financial issues, giving them some donations would go a long way.
Both they and The Trevor Project also offer crisis support lines. I'm sure they're busy right now and you should consider giving them your support as well.
Thankyou!!!!! ❤️
Reading through some stuff on TransLifeline I came across the Trans Resistance Network who help people relocate to safer states!
Thank you so much for sharing this. Finding opportunities today to be active and resist has helped me feel less powerless in all of this. I have shared it with some like-minded allies, and it helped boost their morale, too.
I applaud the wisdom to prepare words while we are lost for them now.
As angry as I am, I agree that we have to be strong and support each other now more than ever. I can only offer the support I can. For the entire trans community, I made [email protected]. If you need encouragement in this particular kind of dysphoria, the community is there.
Other things we can do is share tips about being safe. I've been tempted to make a community focused on that, but situations vary so much that it'd be hard to pinpoint good tips.
Stay safe. Please. And know that at least this one internet stranger does in fact give a shit about you. DM me if you need someone to talk to.
I'm trying to spread this around as much as I can right now, but starting 2025, you don't be able to travel to the EU anymore with just a passport, and will need a Visa.
I have no fucking idea the path that my life is gonna take. Things were looking up and all I wanted was to finish the college of my dreams and enjoy my life. I have absolutely no idea what to do now. I do have citizenship in another country that I can flee to but that means leaving my friends, family, and education behind. What's gonna happen :/
It feels awful to say, but your highest priority is you. I don't expect blue states to matter given the full red federal control (president, house, senate, SCOTUS), or any of the "little victories" of the election to matter.
I feel it's going to be easier to help others from the outside, and it's only going to get harder to get there as time goes on.
I love you all. I'm on the younger end of Lemmy users here and I have never faced anything that feels this life-changing. Maybe even the older users haven't, I'm not sure. Get out of this country if you can, and if you can't, organize organize ORGANIZE. We can only rely on eachother now. Work on yourself as well. We all need some intragroup love now.
I’m so devastated to see this happening and am still processing it myself.
Please take care. Best of luck and lots of love from across the pond to all of you.
Trans woman here in New Mexico. I know I’m in a blue state, but I’m still terrified. Thank you for the Matrix guide, hopefully we can all be there for each other during this time! Sending love to all of the sweet and amazing folks outside of the US for your support and encouragement ❤️❤️🏳️⚧️
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I'm gonna be putting a good amount of time into "hardening" my online presence and technology this weekend. I'll probably go through that Matrix guide tomorrow
To join the matrix trans housing network please message me directly here. It's invite only.
Chin up! 🐬
3 steps back 4 steps forward I guess, that's how progress in general usually goes