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Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 21 hours ago

For someone who gives this much of a shit about gender roles, you'd think they'd learn the correct forms of the word for an intended spouse.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

My wife took my name, but I would not give the slightest shit if she didn't, which I made clear to her at the time.

We briefly discussed having a double-barrel surname, but writing that out would be a mild inconvenience that neither of us want.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What a narrow view. In other many places things are different and they function you know. In Brazil kids get the mother's surname.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Wait until he finds out about Icelandic naming conventions!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago

Interesting how it goes?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

My maiden name was awful to have. Other people liked it because it looked cool, but it was a hassle for everything even in the US, where at least part of it was well known. I then moved to Germany, where it was just totally foreign.

My married name is under three syllables (vs more than eight), easy to spell, and sounds as German as possible. My husband would have loved to take my last name, but we couldn’t do it the way we wanted to (German naming laws 🙃). I would really have liked to at least have been able to keep my maiden name as a middle name, but alas.

I still feel very weird (about a year out) about it, but there are way more good feelings than bad.

However, it’s really annoying that people now assume I’m German. I put in a shit load of work to learn German well as an adult, and my strongest skill is in pronunciation. That combined with my name means people think I’m just a native German who’s bad at grammar, and they don’t correct me anymore.

I always wanted to blend in as a native, I just didn’t think about the middle stretch where I just seem a bit dumb to others, both because of the language and cultural things that people now expect me to know (I thought it was called handkäse because you can eat the little rounds straight from the hand, no need for bread, until last year).

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have a German surname, but my family changed the pronunciation to sound lest German during WWII so now Germans pronounce it "wrong" and no one else can pronounce it at all.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I read most of my news, so it took about a month to realize the VP candidates last name was pronounced “Walls,” so you’re among company.

I’m from Connecticut, which has a town called Berlin, pronounced BURR-lun (/‘bərlən/). That , like the pronunciation of many German-origin names, was changed during WWII, but it’s basically a shibboleth for locals now, like Houston Street.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm in Indiana and half of our place names are pronounced incorrectly.

Ver-sayles (Versailles)
Rooshaville (Russiaville)
Pee-ru (Peru) Kay-roh (Cairo)

And, of course, we're the home of the University of Note'r Daym.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

Saint Louis would like some words:

Bellefontaine (BELL-fountain)

Cabanne (CAB-a-knee)

Chouteau (SHOW-toe)

Carondelet (kron-duh-let)

Cote Brilliante (coat BRILL-yunt)

DeTonty (duh-TON-tee)

Dougherty Ferry (DOOR-uh-tee ferry)

DeBaliviere (duh-BALL-uh-ver)

Goethe (GO-thee)

Gravois (GRAV-oy)

Gratiot (GRASH-it)

Hodiamont (HOAD-uh-mont)

Juniata (june-ee-AH-tuh)

Kossuth (KOSS-ooth)

Laclede (lah-CLEED)

Spoede (SPAY-dee)

Tesson Ferry (TESS-on ferry)

Zumbehl (ZUM-bull)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds like L.A., where they like to mispronounce every Spanish name and half the names are in Spanish.

Like Lows Feel-iz (Los Feliz)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 hours ago

Yup, we also add French and German in the mix!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

German here. Took my wife’s name because she has publications and I don’t. I have no idea what you are talking about. In Germany any partner can take the others name in a marriage or even have a compound name (maiden name - new name). My father took my mother’s name, they divorced 20 years ago, now my father is going to change his name back to his old name. My sister married her girlfriend, she took her name. Idk at this point it kinda became our internal family joke thing although our last name wasn’t that horrible

[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I already had a compound name, and we both have middle names, which are the relevant problems to combining our names the way we wanted.

In Germany, you can’t have a twice hyphenated name (not that I wanted one), nor can you use that hyphenated name as an additional middle name, if you already have one.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 15 hours ago

Ah ok thanks for explaining. That makes sense that although they redid the law that there’s still idiotic shit I it that doesn’t work in real life.

[–] [email protected] 151 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Women, don't marry men who won't take your name. That's a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won't be the only one.

[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I took my wife's name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 day ago

And don't marry a man who insists you take his. That's a wall of control he's building around you and he won't stop until he's separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it's your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 day ago (4 children)

My fiance and I are considering creating a brand new last name that we both take.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

This is really interesting, because in my state in Australia, this process isn't gendered at all. The man can take the woman's name just as easily, same with same-sex marriages.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Warning: Taken from decades-old memories of things that I wasn't involved in or paying much attention to! Anyway...

In Virginia a man sued the state like 30 years ago because they wanted to charge him to change his name, when a woman could change her name free when she got married. The state could either have charged women or made it free for all. They chose the later.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 23 hours ago

CONCATENATE([HusbandsName], [WifesName])

Oh wait, wrong Dax.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I've known other people who do that.

I just feel like any name change that you don't need (i.e. you're transitioning) is just more bother than it's worth.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Yeah, that's what we are running into. The marriage forms here in NC make it simple to take the husband's last name as part of the process, but any other kind of change requires a lot of crazy, expensive, and time consuming steps.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

I wonder if there's an opening there to claim discrimination on the basis of sex.

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[–] [email protected] 87 points 1 day ago (4 children)

There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

  1. She didn't want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

  2. She didn't want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Also some names just sound better. And some names go better than others with some surnames

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Marrying Jeffery Combs is like marrying 300 men at the same time, though. Every day he can just act like a different alien.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

" I don't know who you are anymore!
I love it!"

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 day ago

You can't expect a regressive to understand evolution. They are going backward faster than the rest of us are moving forward.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago (7 children)

There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work... Best case scenario it's an annoying hassle to deal with.

Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that's mostly because we also share the same first name so it's hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn't need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

'Why should I have to change? He's the one who sucks!' -Michael Bolton

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[–] [email protected] 50 points 1 day ago (3 children)

It's heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It's exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 day ago (9 children)

It's fiancée. Fiancé is male.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago

Today I Learned! I had no idea there was a difference. Apparently they are pronounced the same, it's only a written difference.

But it seems like in English fiancé is becoming a gender neutral term

Dictionary.com — Fiancé vs Fiancée

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 day ago

I think it’s safe to say that Walsh knows a lot about women maintaining “walls of separation”. Maybe even restraining orders.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Yet another conservative weakchin hiding behind a beard.

They're certainly going for a look right now.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

I almost kept my maiden, but now it's an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo's because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.

Sometimes, it's really that simple. My husband didn't care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (7 children)

My wife went double-barreled after I specifically told her I didn't care if she changed, kept, or anything in between. I didn't want to change my name, so why should she have to?

Twenty years next summer.

Edit: "double-barreled" just means hyphenated.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 day ago (5 children)

You don't expect Herbert West: Reanimator to be the voice of reason... yet here we are

What a funky timeline

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