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I need some tucking help (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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As a transfem, it's probably not a surprise that I get disphoric about a certain area. Tucking normally doesn't really work for me because it leaves tape residue everywhere, hurts like hell to remove the tape and is super inconvenient (even though it's medical tape). My idea: there has to be at least some underwear that is specifically designed for tucking.

After googling for a good while, I found a couple of sites offering tucking underwear. The only issue is: the price is extremely high. Does anyone of you have experience with tucking underwear? What are your thoughts and can you recommend them? I don't wanna blow a ton of money on something that turns out to be only mediocre at best.

Along with that, does anyone have any sources to buy from in central Europe (online or in-person), specifically Austria/Vienna?

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

I recommend a gaff from origami customs, as they don't charge for making your gaff to custom measurements, and they have a free gaff program.

EDIT: Origami Customs is based out of Canada and they ship internationally. Since I don't see any of their in-person free gaff programs partners in Austria, your best bet will be their online free gaff program through Point of Pride, here are their requirements:

We have only two requirements in an effort to be as inclusive as possible:

  • You identify as transgender (MTF, genderqueer, non-binary, genderfluid, gender non-conforming, and every other non-cis identity assigned male at birth within the trans umbrella.)
  • You cannot afford to purchase femme shapewear, or you cannot safely obtain femme shapewear.

We accept all requests for support, and applications are open year-round. Once you complete your application, your request will be added to our waitlist. Shipping is discrete and 100% free, and we ship internationally to 90+ countries and counting.

Point of Pride sources their gaffs from Origami Customs. You have to take measurements, fill out an application on this Google Form, and they will contact you when it's ready to ship. They do ship internationally for free.

I think the main "catch" is that there is a wait-list and presumably a long wait time. Even buying a gaff directly from Origami Customs I placed my order in December 2023 and it didn't ship until March 2024. I suspect it will be a much, much longer wait for a free gaff through Point of Pride.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

That is a really cool website!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago

Thanks, I love how genderqueer the underwear models are 😁

I do have one of their gaffs and it works for me really well. I tend to wear underwear over the gaff, and while it doesn't entirely eliminate all bulge or completely smoothes out the area, it does a much better job than just underwear. I wore the gaff through a couple TSA pat-downs and it was perfect for that kind of situation. It also lets me wear dresses that otherwise show too much, if you know what I mean.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Thank you so much for the recommendation! Sad that there's nothing in person here tho, guess I have to put up with the shipping struggle...

I'm luckily in a position to not need to resort to Point of Pride - I'd rather have it go to someone who really needs the support.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

https://www.pointofpride.org/free-femme-shapewear

If you can’t afford to buy one, this organization will send you a free gaff. They ship internationally, it just may take awhile to get to you (they are currently fulfilling requests that were put in around 4 months ago).

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Is there a place to get free Packers

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I don’t know any but you might try asking here: [email protected] as someone there will likely have more experience with packers than I do.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Hi there! Looks like you linked to a Lemmy community using a URL instead of its name, which doesn't work well for people on different instances. Try fixing it like this: [email protected]

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I don’t know where you can get them from central Europe, but Gaff and Go is a British company that makes really nice gaffs. Their “magic gaff” line works well for me. I get them shipped to me in Canada.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Ok, thank you for the recommendation

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I just use a pair of bikini panties under a pair of boyshort panties and it works for me (though I figure the larger your package the harder that may be)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'd be a little concerned about it being quite uncomfortable since bikinis usually are a different material, but it might be worth a try. Thanks

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Not actual bikinis, bikini panties, you can get both on cotton which is what i use

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

I used a home made gaff with stockings and socks. It did the trick nicely, though they didn't last more than a couple of uses

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah gaffs are what you are looking for and at least for me they work well. I bought some a few years ago and they still hold up.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Yeah thank you, I actually didn't know that it had an actual word

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Can't tell you if it's actually any good unfortunately, but I know Untag (NL) has something like this. While we didn't end up buying anything from them yet, their designs seem to be pretty well thought out in general: https://untag.com/collections/tucking-underwear

(Was considering ordering a swim skirt from them at one point – avoids the need to actively tuck – but as you noticed it's not exactly cheap, so buying something that we might outgrow soon – we're actively gaining weight – didn't seem worth it with how often we would have ended up using it.)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

No clue if they ship to Europe/what the cost of shipping are, but I've liked EnFemme's offerings, but they're not cheap. Tried a few other things, but its what has worked the best for me. Doubling or tripling up on basic panties can also work to some degree and probably a lot cheaper and more broadly available.