I sit still and try to feel the sadness as directly as possible, without any distractions at all.
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My wife got me onto a comedy podcast called Bananas on the This is Exactly Right network--it's usually really funny. We both also like Dungeons & Daddies which is a Dungeons and Dragons improv comedy type podcast. Just lay in bed and laugh
I could use some comedy for sure! I'll look into it.
Dungeons and daddies is incredible. Itβs hilarious but is also an intense lesson in βfuck around and find out.β
Rewatching Parks & Rec episodes always cheers me up.
Cutting my hair (because I do it myself) or getting a haircut never misses.
Interesting. Do you think it's about changing appearance or exerting control or other?
I rearrange furniture when I need to get out of a rut. I think it's a combo of physical exertion and controlling my environment. My office has had many layouts over the years.
Just feeling fresh and well groomed, I don't think it's any deeper than that. A shower helps too.
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For me, self care is:
A trip to IKEA
Reading
Putting phone on silent
Playing classical music
Eating IKEA meatballs
Long, hot shower
Getting a shave at the barber shop
Spending time with favourite person
Uber eats from a proper restaurant (not fast food)
Knitting/crocheting
Fixing something that's broken (mechanical, not electrical)
Going for a gentle walk an hour before sunset when it's less hot outside
IKEA is therapy
You gotta start it with a positive jam!
A walk, copius amounts of alcohol (will postpone not solve), a joint with a favourite movie/tv show and a tall glass of choccy milk.
Shopping, alcohol, gambling, drugs. None of those is my answer.
Caffeine, and spend money.
I just remember that everything is going to die with the heat death of the universe and I feel at peace.
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Lists, strong emotive music, niche interest rabbit holes (preferably new) and awful people (It's always Sunny)... I also clean if I'm able, short bursts usually.
Say "bubbles" in the deepest voice you possibly can. It always make me chuckle when in a funk.
Just wait until you watched a certain little Britain sketch. "Bubbles" will be forever etched into your mind.
Gummy bears.
Seriously, two things on the internet can help me laugh uncontrollably.
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Reading Garfield Minus Garfield. It's hilarious when you just imagine that Jon is simply completely neurotic.
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Or, whatever hilarious "autocorrect" disaster screenshots will do the trick also.
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Singing to your favorite songs
I listen to some Rick Astley.
He's never going to let you down.
He's never messed around and hurt me.
Take a nice shower,get to yoga class even on the days I don't feel like it, treating myself to a nice book or random thing I want, talking to my therapist and letting it all out.
Listen to music.
Mjuzik
I quit looking at ALL news sites. And sleep. If I do this for a few days I feel so much better. Other healthy habits help too.
listen to sad songs
That doesn't sound like it'd help
Sometimes the only way to deal with bad emotions is to go through them. It's good to take time and recognize your emotions and explore them, if that makes sense. Listening to sad songs might help with that and it helps you feel not alone because someone else feels bad too.
It is important to not dwell too much or else you might turn into a teenage angst version of me and no one wants that.
I watch the Monster Factory on YouTube. Specifically the more recent Dark Souls 3 episodes with the randomized translator for all text. Always puts be in a good mood.
I didnβt know they were still running. Iβve only seen a few episodes, but the Mass Effect 2 one is one of my comfort vids.
They've slowed down by they do one occasionally as new games come out.
If you have a dog, wrap them in toilet paper. Ok it's not the best idea in the world but it's really fucking funny.
Starlight Brigade feat Dan Avidan
Its all about the hopefull and uplifting music, put it on and go for a walk, tell your family you love them, then appologize to someone you feel you let down. Cry, it only means you care. After, eat a nice home cooked meal and re-watch Loki or Guardians of the Galaxy.
Thats what I like!