When leaving a room say "Bi" instead of "Bye".
this post was submitted on 28 Jul 2023
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There's nothing feminine about being a bisexual guy. Sounds like you want to be androgynous or something. For clarification: I'm not saying bisexual men can't be feminine. I'm saying the two are unrelated.
I know I just want to present androgynous or slightly lean in one direction. Unrelated to sexuality
If you want to lean andro, take tips from alternative communities.
General high level concepts of how to femme yourself up-
- Wear more jewelry (necklaces, rings, bracelets, chains, charms, pins), more of it should be of a feminine style (thinner, more dainty/smaller)
- Get more piercings if you're into them, especially kinds of piercings that men rarely get - belly button, nose, cheek, etc.
- If you only get your ears pierced wear larger or more prominent ones, not just studs
- Wear things that are outwardly cute - flowers, cutesy drawings, etc. and clothing with feminine styles - bows, frills, ruffles, lace
- Expose more skin, and wear clothing that's cut for women or exposes skin in ways that feminine clothing typically does
- Wear colorful and longer socks, expose them
- Scarves and boas when its cold
- Shorter shorts, skirts, or unisex clothing
- Feminine shoe styles if you can afford them - dainty sandals, heels, etc.
- Wear makeup. Eyeliner is perhaps the easiest to get away with as many alt communities like goth wear eyeliner
- Paint fingers/toes
- Grow longer hair, spend more time styling your hair
- Wear scents, especially more feminine ones (mostly stay away from sandalwood), if you're into them... keep them light and airy don't apply them super heavy
I would expose skin but I'm currently chubby. Losing weight but not happy with my body thank you for the list tho
Skin can be exposed in many areas... chest, shoulders, back, legs, hips, etc. not just the abdomen. You don't have to expose skin everywhere, but there are probably places you'd be comfortable with exposing but are typically not exposed on male cut clothing.
I'm going to share with you something a friend said to me that significant changed how I viewed my own body wrt to clothing.
It was Summer and my friend was wearing a crop top. She was chubby, like me, and she told me about how her mum always hated my friend wearing crop tops because she thought it was inappropriate if you weren't skinny. My friend explained that she found this an absurd perspective, because it's not like the fact that she was chubby was at all a secret - like it's not as if covering up her tummy made people less aware of the fat that existed there. The kinds of people who would be negative about her weight would be negative regardless of what she was wearing.
This struck a chord with me because I had spent years trying to lose weight, and also dressing in a way that made me miserable, because I had mentally gated off any fun self expression or style as something for when I got to a size I was happy with. When I look back on photos from that time, I cringe, not at my weight, but on how I dressed; my compulsion to cover up the body I wasn't happy with made my body look worse.
I had the best progress in losing weight when I sort of snapped and just started wearing what I liked, regardless of whether I felt I "should" or not, and I look back on photos from that period much more positively. What my friend shared with me helped me along that route, though it did take me a while to be confident enough to wear crop tops.
Although this story is about crop tops, I'm not trying to convince you to do anything you're not comfortable with. Expanding one's style to be more reflective of how you feel is usually a gradual process and there's plenty of other things to start with. Just try your best not to make the same mistakes I did. Internalised fatphobia often makes losing weight even harder, and I found it much easier to imagine the person I was working to be once I started dressing a bit more like her. A sense of vision was helpful. Also, "too chubby to wear [thing]" is a pretty blurry line and it's not clear when you've reached it, because wearing things that you'd like to but don't feel able to is always a stressful thing that needs working up to
Thank you for sharing tho I'm too fat to wear anything I'd like to wear. Seriously contemplating not eating
Great list! For piercings, I'd add (nose) septum and additional earrings (i.e, secondary ones that might run up the ear, beside the standard centre-of-lobe piercing)
That's true and I can kinda see why you'd get that from OP's post but to be fair, OP never actually claimed it did either. They just asked two separate questions.
Yeah. Could have worded it better
To stop being a pedant and actually answer your question: Wear brightly colored striped socks. People will know you want the D. I can't help you with attracting women - I know nothing about that.
Tbh not really interested in attracting women. Prefer guys. I want to max I want guys vibes
Ohh ok. Jock straps.
I don't know if it's a thing at your location, but here an earring on the right side would do the trick.
Turn up the pants and show some ankle. Thats all i got. Its mainly come from memes, but now i love showing off my ankles and notice other people that do 🤷♀️
Wear the colors of the bi flag? Whether in an obvious way, like a shirt, or in a more subtle way with accessories: socks, bracelet, phone wallpaper, keychain..
Necklaces, bracelets, nail polish, finer fabrics... I don't know anything about fashion, just naming stuff that I find pretty. Sorry for being vague, but I'd suggest you start looking for all sorts of different fashions across the board and see if something calls out to you. You're looking to express yourself after all.
Wish I knew of parents would be ok with me using nail polish
Only one way to find out! And i'd say polish is a good way to gauge. Can blame it on someone else (oh my friend wanted to practice or something) and its easily removable if it does end up being a big deal for your parents
Just say you saw J Kenji Lopez and Babish do it and it looked cool on them.
I would say really light makeup, like maybe just tinted chapstick and a thin mascara (if you're blonde use brown, not black
I've been told finger guns 👉👉 and sitting on chairs weirdly are the common bi signals
The occasional mesh shirt couldn't hurt.
Cuff everything and grow your hair out
Flirt with everyone!
If only I knew how to flirt.
I'm sure someone as cute and smart as you has no problem flirting ;)
I suck at flirting not even self degradation I just don't know how
Short shorts!!!!
I prefer jeans but OK. I'll wear shorts
Parents would be pissed :( will normal length shorts do?
If you must
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