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It's not just pushy, it's judgemental and vitriolic
Oh, you eat meat, murderer? Your shoes are made from the skins of defenseless creatures. The sugar you're so callously adding to your coffee was processed with ground-up bones, you unredeemable monster.
Even the arguments for veganism that aren't built on animal cruelty still take on an air of moral superiority. Don't you care about the planet and future generations? How dare you trade carbon emissions for the temporary comfort of a bacon cheeseburger!
The vegan movement has always been associated with anger and contempt, even if it is justified.
There’s also the ‘guilt by association’. Look at organisations like PETA: they even complained about things like the treatment of entirely fictional animals in video games, like Palworld. Basically, you can’t even argue that ‘they look like real animals so it encourages real-world mistreatment’ like they usually do.
That does not make you look particularly sane. I’m sure they do good work as well, but that sort of thing isn’t helping their cause.
Saying PETA is representative of vegans is rather like using Antifa as an example of liberals, or Info Wars for conservatives.
Which is exactly what everyone does. At least in the US. And every side is equally wrong about it.
The loudest voices always draw the most attention. And I don’t know any other vegan voice that’s as loud as PETA’s. That’s kind of the problem.
PETA might do something good by accident. They kill 60-70% of the pets they receive for donation, so I guess the lucky 1/3 that don’t get the ax are a good thing.
PETA was giving away free coloring books one time so I decided to order some for my kids thinking it would be good for them to hear from all sides.
One of the pictures was three people standing over a turkey dinner with the most horrific caricatures you can think of absolutely salivating over how juicy the turkey was going to be.
I shit you not.
I had to trash the sons of bitches.
Really killed that group for me, I always that people were exaggerating about them and how bad they are.
They killed that little piece of me.
In my experience, your first sentence sums it up nicely.
They assume a moral high ground because they've adopted a diet that is generally deemed healthier and better for the environment (I don't always agree with this).
But unless they're also doing all the things we could all do better (e.g. not buying new, not upgrading the the latest and greatest, not taking 40 minute showers, not eating out every second day), they're only somewhat less guilty of environmental damage than the average person, but they're taking a generally undeserved "holier than thou" position and then shoving it down your throat. This isn't everyone, and I don't really care what you eat, but these are the vegans that get under my skin.
Eh, I can see it both ways. Like, nobody is, or can be, perfect. That doesn't mean they don't have a valid moral argument for the good choices they make. They're trying to be a better person, and I think it's fair to help other people recognize the poor decisions they are making. Climate change especially affects all of us.
On the other hand, you're 100% correct. Nobody can lay exclusive claim to the high ground, so anybody acting superior is probably an asshole.
Also I would always listen to you, I may not agree or take your advice, but I will listen to you
It would be someone being less of a hypocrite so you would not be seen as as annoying as the other option
In my experience it's usually more like: Them: here have some of this meat thing Me: No thanks Them: why not it's really good try some Me: i don't eat meat Them: but why? Me: to reduce animal cruelty and environmental harm Them: wow how dare you be so judgy
I'm not really sure how I'm supposed to not offend this type of person in this situation and frankly I don't think it's my fault or my problem they're offended. My theory is that that agree with my reasons but rather than change or live with the cognitive dissonance they just lash out at anyone that reminds them they could be living more ethically even if they basically MAKE them say it.
Blaming vegans for that is bullshit, frankly
That isn't the type of behavior that I think most find annoying but I'm sorry that you get that reaction at all.
I think many people are so annoyed with feeling they are attacked for eating meat (and I do eat meat) that when that button gets pressed the anger just rises up.
For me I get a little true guilt. I know I'm not helping in the best possible ways that I can, all the time. I'm not perfect and won't ever pretend that I am, and I also haven't given up on getting better. When I go a day without eating meat, I congratulate myself. With a burger. (No, not really.)
Some people see "to reduce animal cruelty" as judgy because that's just how nature is. The moral superiority comes from you acting like you're somehow above everyone and everything else. It's entirely in your wording and the implications that if you eat meat, you enjoy animal suffering vs seeing it as a natural outcome of nature.
This is completely besides the point, but I personally view factory farming as different than what happens in nature.
This is also beside the point, but you are making some wild logical leaps here. The fact that I personally don't want to support factory farming because I think it is cruel in no way means that I think other people "enjoy animal suffering" and assuming that is arbitrarily assigning thoughts I have never had to me.
None of the above is really relevant because I should be allowed to go about my day without justifying my dietary choices just as people that eat meat should.
Look, you don't deserve the treatment you've described. Everyone here agrees with you on that.
The person you were replying to was trying to explain why what you said might be interpreted as judgemental, even if that's not how you meant it (and we all believe you, even if the people you're talking about don't).
I think the last line sums it up. You don't eat meat, and that's the only explanation you owe anyone.
However, I know that when I'm providing a meal and I learn someone doesn't eat meat, I always ask follow up questions because maybe I cooked the 1rice with chicken stock, or maybe the vegetables were sauteed in butter. If it is a moral choice, I would appreciate a heads up so I can prepare a meal everyone can enjoy. I'm not irritated by the request, because that's the whole reason why you cook food for friends. If it's a healthy choice, you might still eat some of the brown rice, or maybe I sub oil for butter. Those are changes I can make on the fly.
I know I've probably unintentionally offended some vegans by probing for more answers. And I've met some vegans who are every bit as judgemental as you've been assumed to be. We could all do a little bit better at understanding each other.
I'd not see it as judgemental, just trying to inform. These days meatcis just a commodity, completely disasociated from the animals it comes from and without second thougt on how those animals are treated. If I go into detail like this, it's really just to get the info out there in a casual way. The person in question might ignore it, or may think about it. I also needed nudges like this to realize the moral issue and I'm happy for every one of them. I don't really go into detail much, and rarely inform someone about my preferences. But will answer truthfuly when asked
If someone chooses to ignore ot just not see the suffering behind eating meat in this day and age, it is frustrating though to say the least. Especially if simply reducing the meat intake and being more selective about the source of the meat comes a long way. But I get why it is so tough, as I'm not a saint myself and while I reduce meat most of the time, I still have some occasionally even if I feel bad about it.
I will go and shoot the next dog I see. You won't judge me for that, right?
Yes, good example. It is precisely that sort of judgemental strawman bullshit that gives vegans a bad rep.
And it's history stems from religious ideology.
Edit: oh you downvoters. Go look it up. A woman had a vision from God that said "don't eat things with faces". Dead serious - that's where it started.
All the sciencey justifications today are post-hoc rationalization.