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You have always seemed to me to be someone with good judgement, even so, it's always good to be vindicated.
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Financial uncertainty can really drive one to second guessing themselves. But I did save up a good cushion precisely so I could have the option I did and not regret it
@just_kitten @Seagoon_ Ugh! That's a massive red flag. You definitely did the right thing getting out of there!
I had a past boss who was constantly taking digs at people behind their backs. Usually past employees.
Somehow, all these ex-employees were grossly incompetent and useless. They stuffed things up.
Never did he acknowledge any blame on his part. Not even, at the very least, for repeatedly hiring the wrong people for the job.
Well.
Sure enough, soon after a major client left. It was largely, ultimately, his fault.
And he refused to take any responsibility, blaming everyone except for himself.
Another time, soon after, he gave one of my colleagues an explicit instruction. She carried it out as he instructed. Then he told her off, claiming that he never said that.
(There were multiple witnesses who heard him say it.)
This became a pattern.
It sounds like your boss might be similar. And you did the right thing by leaving.
@ajsadauskas @just_kitten @Seagoon_ sounds like a workplace psychopath. John Clarke’s “Working With Monsters” has people who sound like this.
https://www.penguin.com.au/books/working-with-monsters-9781740511544
@Lats @just_kitten @Seagoon_ For a moment there, I saw the author and thought it was the other John Clarke 😂
Which would have been utterly amazing!
That said, it still looks like a very insightful read...
@ajsadauskas @just_kitten @Seagoon_ it was as it explained a few things about some people I worked with. They also made a TV version.
I really hold onto hope - for the sake of my former colleagues and the industry - that my ex-boss is just garden variety egotistic (he cannot accept that he's just a bad manager and stress is making him even more narrow minded) He has at least given most ex staff good references and is conscious of not burning too many bridges in the industry. Still, he is being unreasonably rude, sarcastic and unsupportive to existing valuable employees who are already struggling with burnout - is that how you treat good workers who are a real rarity in this field? It would take 5+ years to train up someone as good as the guy I talked to today. Sometimes I wonder if he's trying to tank his own business 😒
He isn't as bad as your ex boss though, holy hell now he sounds like a legitimate psychopath. Forget red flags that needs an entire firetruck of alarms
@just_kitten it called "fuck you money" for a reason 😁 @Seagoon_