Games

Pathfinder is the "we have both kinds of music: country and western" answer. I think pf 2nd edition is probably the best bet if you want to stay in the genre. I haven't played it but I've heard good things.

One thing I didn't touch on in my rant is genre. If you are trying to do something that isn't a dungeon crawl, probably don't use DND.

I personally really like Fate. It's more in line with how I imagine RPGs should go. Very narrative, lots of creative freedom. If you want a really crunchy system with lots of rules, it's not for you.

You know how sometimes people talking about DND will be like "ah yes my character will really come online when I hit 7th level as a monk paladin bard"? That's kind of nonsense. In fate if you wanted to be a righteous rockstar with a mean left hook, you could just write down "Rocker on a mission from God" as your high concept. If everyone agrees that's cool and they get it, you're done. Character works in session 1.

DND also tends to make the players be very zoomed in on their characters. Some people like that. I prefer fate where it's a little more zoomed out, and you're expected to think about the scene and story. As a player you have input.

That said, blades in the dark is also pretty popular. I don't like it for much less severe reasons than the problems I have with DND. It's not a bad game, I don't think, but there are some choices it made that I don't enjoy.