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My bi partner is still slightly annoyed that she's had to settle for a man because none of the lesbians wanted to be with a bi girl.
That's kind of sad.
For both parties.
Right?
Gee I love you two.
Obviously I know nothing about the guy's relationship, but that's a huge red flag to me. That said, who knows, they may have a very loving, healthy and stable relationship, and this is just a jokey gripe she makes for funsies.
We do have a loving and stable relationship. Complete with kids and a mortgage! And we still fuck like rabid apes.
You mean painfully, with jerky twitches, difficulty swallowing and ultimate brain death?
Not sure about literal brain death but pretty much.
SICK! Super happy for you my dude! Was worried with what you'd said, but, obviously, that's a single sentence.
It's bisad.
NonMelancholy
I'm not saying she feels like she settled, just that I wouldn't have met her in the first place if she had been accepted by any of the women who she met before me. Candy's loss though.
I understand that I know nothing of your life. And I'm sure it's going fine. But the way you're framing it while defending the relationship seems like you need to have a bit more of a talk about it.
What i mean is she wasn't looking for a male partner when I met her, but there I was: tall, handsome, charming, sensitive, well spoken, 8 inch dick etc etc. And now we're 15 years in, have multiple children and still find time to bump uglies at least 4 times a week. I know she's into girls, but it doesn't make her less into me and I can still make her sound like brain damaged livestock. So thank you for your concern, but we're good.
as long as you're feeling settled-for, that's what counts
My aunt once told my (then) 10 year old sister to "just marry a man you can stand". We keep wondering when aunt Wendy is going to kill her husband. He's a dick.
My uncle in law married the first woman who would have him. He didn’t think long or hard about it, just thought that to be the most expedient and simple. Thought that all women were good and kind and reasonable people like his mother and sisters.
She’s been a complete demon to him, totally solipsistic and money-obsessed, and is not only working him into an early grave but is also stressing him out such that he looks like he’s in his late-eighties. He’s only 64.
Never took to the idea of sex outside of marriage or an LTR (= min. 6 months, usually 12 or more), but daaaaaang… people need to percolate more before filtering down into a cup.
that's gonna be a fun nursing home confession one day
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I have a bi ex who broke up with me because she knew her lesbian friend group would ostracize her for dating a man. The queer community can be incredibly discriminatory against the bi part of itself
It's always been the case unfortunately. Biphobia is as rampant among the LGBT community as homophobia is in the world at large. All the things that homophobes do to gay men, they'll happily turn around and do to bi men.
Yeah my partner and brother are both bi and there is a strong sense that they're being made to pick a side. I have no problems with her having a girlfriend in addition. Honestly it'd be good for her, but I also think she wouldn't be terribly successful going into it with a male partner and several kids. Maybe with other bi women but they'd probably think she was unicorn hunting.
Or the trans part of itself. Or the questioning part of itself. Or probably the lesbian and gay parts, let alone the +. It sucks, but it turns out queer folks are just, well... Folks. So we gotta work on that.
sad to see that the scene from chasing amy still rings true
Uh. I hope she isn't using that particular word when talking about you friend.
No but if they'd not been so discriminatory I wouldn't have met her in the first place.