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So I've realized that in conversations I'll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I've been thinking that it's not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

"What's up guys?" "How's it going man?" "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y'all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 8 months ago (2 children)

The simplest approach is to accept language is inherently gendered, and at a certain point it is exhausting to either take offense to everything or walk on eggshells.

I’m southern, so I use y’all almost exclusively lol

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I'm more of a "be the change you wish to see" kinda person. I'll neutralize my language to encourage others to do the same, eroding the banks of the river of language in the direction I wish it to go.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago

Did you just assume my language?