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The longer I'm alive the more I see most people in relationships aren't all that happy and quite frequently resent their partners for one thing or another.
I am honestly starting to think that besides the lucky few, relationships for most end up being a disaster. It's all a bit of a scam.
the good relationships are invisible
ding ding. ποΈ thatβs it.
I try to post good bits, but it feels weird/boasty/not ok. Complaining is more broadly accepted β οΈ
people do love to gossip about other people's bad relationships
most media does feed that
me, I'm fairly private but I want to say I'm the luckiest person in the world to have Mr Seagoon,
My experiences have been truly terrible. I got together with the wrong sort of person, and have paid the price for that repeatedly. That said, and regardless of my experience, I do believe there are healthy relationships out there to be had.
I think one must be more selective which is interesting, because I've found that the longer I'm single, the more prone I am to making a catastrophic mistake in who I let into my life.
I've been single a very long time now, probably pushing 8 or 9 years. I'm not even sure what a relationship would look like for me right now, but it's definitely not what I often see around me.
Then be extra careful who you are vulnerable with.
Yes well I'm no fool. I've been around the block a few times.
My apologies if that's how it came across. I didn't mean to imply that.
This is a topic I'm very interested in. Investing in a relationship is hard work sometimes. Taking the rough with the smooth, communication about issues, that sort of thing. If you grew up with shit examples of relationships and parenting then it can become a default program for yourself as well, and it sometimes takes hard work and guts to break the mould. People don't know how to do it, therapy can be costly and time consuming, and people tend to believe that if a good relationship doesn't come easily then it's not worth it.
Also it must be said: some relationships do not survive long after the early passionate heat of sexual discovery makes way for the place where companionship grows.