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How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.

Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don't call people eggs, like ever, it's extremely uncool.

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 7 months ago (2 children)

It's ok to call yourself an egg, but calling other people eggs is like saying "I know your gender identity better than you do".

I'd say the only time it's ok to call someone else an egg is if it's past tense, if the person has transitioned, and if their transition is public knowledge.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago

I've always thought of it like the prime directive: you shouldn't interfere, you should only be there in a supportive fashion when it happens.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Oof, that sounds so horrible! I'm not even sure that using egg in past-tense seems right. That feels like drinking with buddies when someone who's known you your whole life starts regaling the group with the last time you peed the bed. Sure, it's out of your control and there's nothing to be particularly ashamed of, but why you gotta bring that up, yo?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Right, it can still out someone. But between friends that know each other's boundaries it's fine