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DAE Feel the Urge to Connect with an Old Friend Again but at the Same Time Feel Afraid/Relunctant? What do you do in these cases?

Sometimes an old friend randomly pops up in my mind and the thought of catching up with them feels good. But at the same time it feels overwhelming, like I'm stepping out of bounds of some sorts.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think about contacting my HS best friend all the fucking time. Never have tho. I was an awful friend after we left school tbh, I was never the one reaching out first.

Beyond the fear of rejection, the biggest thing stopping me is I still have nothing to offer as a friend. I never reached out because I never have anything I want to talk about, and I don't have anything to talk about because I don't do anything. I can barely afford gas to leave the house, let alone interesting things to do once I'm out. Catching up on what I've been up to would seriously take like 30 minutes, and like half of that would be explaining all the deaths in my family in the last few years

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I feel you with the "I don't have anything to talk about".

I'm pretty boring, play games, read books, and that's about it.

I wouldn't be able to hold a conversation for long.