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I mean, pressure has its place. But when it becomes a particularly sore subject, especially in a tight job market, you're just poking an open wound.
If you want to help someone get on their feet, maybe try... actually helping. "Hey, I found someone looking to hire an entry level thing-you-do and here's the contact information" / "I saw a help-wanted sign over at the place that has jobs you're looking to fill" / "I asked my friend if they have any openings at Company and it sounds like they might be willing to give you a referral" is vastly more helpful than "Have you tried looking online yet?"
Old people trying to help are always useless.
It was always something incredibly basic like:
"Have you tried writing a CV."
Or incredibly stupid like
"Just march in there and demand a job."
Or the most annoying.
"This person needs insert free labour, that'll be good. No they can't afford to hire anyone so you won't get paid."
Nepotism works, if you can use nepotism you might help. Otherwise you probably have no idea what you're doing.
We're social animals, and going through a person who actually works at the company yields a significantly better rate of hire than just going through some opaque digital front door.