This discourse was going around twitter today apparently and im curious takes from here.
Which is it for you?
For me i prefer playersexuality. I want to be able to romance any romance option regardless of my charachters gender. I dont want to be stuck with only Arcade Gannon if i want to do m/m
I agree that sexuality can be important to a charachter. But if you wanna do that, seems like the charachter can just not be a romance option.
That said. In RPGs devs can do what they want. You want a charachter to be monosexual and a romance option, have at it. (Unless theyre all straight, then fuck you).
I do kinda hate what The Sims did by adding monosexuality. Felt like such a virtue signal that made the game less fun. All Sims being pansexual was always more fun for me. Especially since i usually play that game as a pansexual slut. Unless i decide my player Sim is mono, but thats on the player's end.
Monosexual townies in the Sims should at least be optional (is it? Idk havent played Sims 4 since this update).
I actually can't even remember the last time a video game character was actually bi or pan rather than just player sexual and that sucks.
as mentioned, fire emblem three houses! dorothea openly talks about being into women and is constantly flirting with them, and has an ending where she's explicitly in a relationship with another women that isn't the player character (and who the player character can't romance as a woman, but can as a man. it's definitely not perfect!) similar things for plenty of other characters, as laid out by orannis62, where queerness is a part of the world and different places and people have different relationships with it. adrestia seems to be much more chill about it, given dorothea can openly say she's looking to marry a woman and monica's whole deal, whereas faerghus is incredibly restrictive and several characters in it are implied to be queer but repressing or closeted because of social pressures
this is the kind of thing i want more of in games, to acknowledge how characters' queerness affects them and how their environments shape their queerness. and i don't necessarily want every game to do this. in a perfect world there would be some stardew valleys as well, where it's just everyone is bi and that's not a big deal it just means you can choose to date anyone who's dateable, and it wouldn't matter because there would be plenty of games that seriously think about it.