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Don't let the downvotes get you down. @southsamurai is right about not referring to women as "females." I'm hoping that's the only reason you're getting downvotes. Aside from that, it's a valid question that I don't think deserves downvotes.
Do work on learning how to take your mind off of it, though. Mindfulness practices can help. Maybe try being proactive -- don't wait until you've already got an erection to apply your remedies.
Experiment with masturbating more. Experiment with masturbating less. (I think different people are different. Some get hornier the more they masturbate. Some get hornier when they masturbate less.) See what helps you control your libido more.
Be decent to people, beautiful or not. To the best of your ability, don't make your problem their problem. But also, to the extent that you can't control it, don't beat yourself up about it.
I'm getting mixed signals here
The word "up" is doing a lot of the heavy lifting here