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Are you ok (really, are you)? (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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This time of year is meant to be filled with joy and family get-togethers, but not everyone has family or anything to be happy about. So are you ok?

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Honestly, not really. I experienced something traumatic on Christmas eve of 2017 and have never completely recovered. I'll probably never get back to where I was before that.

It really used to be my favorite day of the year but now it's just raw and awful and I have to keep up appearances so I'm not a miserable person to be around. I really don't want to be that way, I'm generally a pretty easygoing, easy to get along with kinda guy so I hate the shift that I make.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm sorry to hear. Have you tried talking to your family/friends about it? I'm sure they would be understanding and try to help you the way I wish I could.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I've talked to some friends about it, but honestly it's probably ground I need to tread with a therapist. I thought I had a good handle on it but this year has been particularly tough for some reason.

Thank you, though, I appreciate the sentiment!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Your welcome. If you can, please do see someone about it. It's better to talk about it than to let it build.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I've talked to a therapist in the past - not about this, but about the rest of the abuse that was heaped on me during that time. It did help some.

You're right, and it's very similar advice my friends gave me. The hard part is finding the time and energy together to let me do it.