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So what do you like to do for fun? Or, What are some of your hobbies?
I find these much better than "so what do you do for work?", which is what I'm asked constantly. "Yes, person who I don't know, let me discuss work during my free time with you."
This is one of the questions that gives me the most social anxiety when meeting new people. It stresses me out because I don't have any conventional hobbies. I don't think dicking around on Discord, Lemmy, and YouTube really counts as much of a hobby.
I mean what Discords do you participate in? What Lemmy communities do you follow? What videos on YouTube do you like to watch?
You can reframe this and say, "I like to participate in online chat forums about the latest gaming news and technology (discord). I look for cool recipes and cooking techniques (Lemmy cooking community). And I love trying to find new funny comedians to listen to (YouTube)." I think if you narrow it down to the interests you enjoy, rather than "dicking around online" you'll find that you have interesting things to talk about.
Obviously those examples are my own, but I'm sure you use those platforms because they feed you certain content that you enjoy.
Someone else said asking what your current obsession is would be a good icebreaker. Do you think that would be better?
I feel like that way nontraditional hobbies could be included so you could talk about things like Lemmy or whatever your favourite Youtuber is up to. Would that bring up the same level of anxiety?
I find that this backfires sometimes because many people don't seem to have any hobbies.
In the context of an interviewer, I sometimes ask "can you teach me something cool about one of your interests in 5 min?" It's not the same context obviously but you learn a lot about a person quickly that way. Bonus point is, I learn cool stuff about new things I'm probably not familiar with haha
If you ask me about my hobbies you'd better have some free time and a comfortable seat.
πΏποΈ Ok, let's hear them.
Well to start I play the guitar, bass, two kinds of banjo, drums, synthesizer and sing. I'm not picky about genres. I record using a DAW called Reason. I made my electric guitar about 5 years ago out of lumber sourced from the cabinet of a dead transistor organ I could never quite get to work properly that my wife finally told me had to quit taking up space. I have a Lofi synthesizer and a theremin that I built also. I'm also slowly building a collection of homemade effects pedals. I enjoy RC. I have a small helicopter and rock crawler truck, but no airplanes that are air worthy at the moment. I build Gundam models, and have also dabbled in kitbashing unrelated models like cars and airplanes together. This hobby I share with my 12 year old son. I have a couple of 1980s Honda 3 wheelers that I keep alive and occasionally ride. I bake often and I will never be skinny again because I'm good at it. Oh, brewing. I do like to make mead and occasional fruit wines. I'm especially fond of making floral meads with hibiscus or chamomile for example. I've been known to paint when the urge takes me. I have a 3D printer. I have even made a few useful things with. I designed a well working samba whistle that I keep forgetting to upload to thingiverse, and a few other things I have managed to wrestle out of blender. I know I'm forgetting something. My wife calls me a hobby spider.
Sick, what synthesizer? I got a midi keyboard and use Reaper, what's good about Reason? Also if you do wood stuff, do you do it by hands with a saw and chisel or with machines?
My synth is a Roland JP8000. Its analog modeling engine makes waveforms I've never seen anywhere else. The Super Saw is 7 saw waves detuned against each other. And the feedback oscillator capable of some fairly monstrous sounds. It also has the standard wave shapes and noise. Fun machine. Its best friend is a 1960s Wurlitzer electronic piano that it sits atop most of the time. Reason is pretty much everything in one place. Besides having a nice pile of virtual instruments and a mountain of effects, you can also record audio from an outside source. That of course can run through any of the internal effects in real time. I find it visually intuitive and user friendly. The downside at this point with Reason is its price. I've been on it since version 1 though. I'm not familiar with Reaper. Woodworking I do with a mix of hand and power tools. I've had a few years to accumulate tools and toys. I try not to let any of them get too lonely.
I have friends that claim they "don't have hobbies" but the truth is that they spend all their time with their kids and working.
So if they say, "well I don't do much in the way of hobbies because I'm too busy working and taking care of my kids." You can then follow up with "well what do you do for work?" Or "what's the last vacation or outing you did with your kids?" Or "what are your kids interested in? How old are they? Tell me about their personalities."
The fact that they "don't have hobbies" isn't necessarily it backfiring, you then just need to pivot based on their answers. This is just a way to break the ice with someone.
Everyone spends their days doing things, you are really just asking them "how do you spend your time?" Everyone has an answer to that...unless they are in a coma.