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Which Life Pro Tip disappointed you? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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For me it was "buy high quality pillow" because you sleep for one thrid of a day etc. I needed a new pillow anyway so I came to the store and bought the best they had. And it was ... ok. Like it's a fine pillow but my sleeping haven't improved really, it's basically the same. So I was disapointed :(

So, which life pro tip disappointed you?

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[–] [email protected] 86 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Happy Wife, Happy Life"

Some women will never be happy with you because you weren't her first pick, just what she settled for.

You can't make someone happy, who is unwilling to try making themselves happy. Relationships have to be equal partnerships.

Life is so much better living alone with my dog the last 10 years.

[–] [email protected] 52 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don’t think anyone below the age of 50 has seriously believed in “happy wife, happy life”. It’s very much a boomer mentality of “pick someone you don’t love and suffer through the relationship forever”

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I did for a bit but the years went by and sure she's happy, but am I?

It's been 5 years and we're still together.

I think we both know it's time.

It's rough, man. Kids.

My dreams are screaming at me.

Am I supposed to 'follow my dreams'? Is it literal?

I'm not sure what I want anymore, whether I'd be happier single. My subconscious yawps but I ignore it.

Last night I was cheating with 3 of my ex's, at once, in my sleep. She said I was sleep screaming again, but I only remember the spice I felt for life. It's been so long.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yikes dude. You need some counselling.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

That's my pro tip that is disappointing lmao

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It looks worse than it is because I tried to make it poetic. Though, therapy only works if you're actually honest with your therapist about everything (and you can truthfully say you aren't comfortable discussing something at that time, remaining honest and expressing boundaries) but I'm not even being honest with myself. When I can get to that point and get the courage to make the choices I know deep down are right for me, then maybe I'll try therapy again.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I can understand. Be honest and sincere to yourself. This is the only pro tip I keep forever.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Buddy I think it’s time to talk to your wife.