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‘It’s quite soul-destroying’: how we fell out of love with dating apps (www.theguardian.com)
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‘It’s quite soul-destroying’: how we fell out of love with dating apps::For a decade, apps have dominated dating. But now singles are growing tired of swiping and are looking for new ways to meet people – or reverting to old ones

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I did all that for like 7 years in NYC and what did I get? About 5 dates, not a single one turned into a second date. I thought I had one in the bag… Then she sent me a long text saying that she didn’t want to see me again because I made her “uncomfortable” at the end of the date, even though her body language or verbal language said nothing or the sort.

Gonna be real dude, it's not the apps, in this scenario.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

We met up for drinks, we were heading home the same way so we waited for it to come together. Goy in the car, sitting next to each other. I put my arm around her and she cuddled into me. I pulled the move out slightly lifting her chin so she would face me and I French kissed her, and she happily responded. We stopped after a few seconds and sat there holding hands. We went off and walked about 500 ft to the next subway train, which was coming in 10 minutes. I joked "yay more time to make out" and she giggled. We preferred to make out, and add over does, they get a little handsy. She never said "stop",*I'm done " or anything else. She was just there with a smile on her face. When he train came she pushed me off of her (I had her against the wall) and said "I can take it from here" and looked back and smiled at me.

That was it, except from the previous 4 hours they we spent at the bar really getting to know each other.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah so just stop interacting with people. "You're creepy."™

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

The correct answer here is to

A) be less creepy

Or

B) get better at finding people who like your specific brand of creepy

There's someone out there for everyone. Used to be good friends with a dude we literally called "Creepy" as a nickname back in college, because h was just so fuckin awkward. He married a chick who absolutely loves the smothering thing he'd do. He's a good guy and they're super happy, and ngl it really touched the heartstrings.