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Conversations are a two-way process requiring effort from both sides to work well. If they feel like it's not worth their time I would rather they just didn't engage in the first place. Like you said they're not owed a response, that also means you don't have to give one.
But what If I don't want to have a conversation? Sometimes I just want to signal to someone that I don't like what they posted.
That's quite a negative interaction though isn't it? Can you think of a real life equivalent expression of a drive-by downvote that wouldn't be considered rude?
Also, why do you think they would care what you think if you're not going to engage more? If I have a comment that gets lots of downvotes and no other engagement, it's hardly going to change my view, all I'll think is "people around here aren't very friendly". I think it just contributes to a hostile atmosphere online (and don't get me wrong, I've been guilty of doing it too).
I don't think downvoting a post without an explanation is rude. It's the most basic way of saying: "I don't like this".
But to answer your question: Literally showing someone a thumbs-down.
They should feel free to ignore Downvotes then (or disable them in their client)
Of courses it won't, but I don't care. If I cared I'd write a comment.
I think the equivalent would be walking up to someone who's talking, telling them to "shut up", and walking off without explanation (let's say this is at at a setting like a party where you're invited to interact but are under no obligation to).