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Hey Folks!

I've been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19โ‚ฌ bill? Here's a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there's a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don't know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don't tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I only tip for sit-down restaurants where an actual servers brings me my food

everywhere else I preemptively give the stank face as I mash the 'no tip' button on their payment system

I usually just round up to the next $5 amount to make the numbers clean, don't really care what the % is

so a $16.83 bill gets a $3.17 tip

this makes it easier to plan a meal budget, like "ok I'm spending $20 on a burger and fries today"

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

But you should tip extra for delivery drivers too

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

oh yeah, I actually do for local food/grocery deliveries

$5 or $10 depending on how much crap I order, not sure what the expectations are though for this type of service??

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

20% minimum, more if they're exceptional (eg if they came by bicycle in the rain)

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They get paid by their employer. I don't pay their wages, their employer does, and if they don't, they should find a better employer

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

So you actively support businesses that pay their employees less than living wages? And you won't provide that wage directly to the worker?

Wow, you're an oblivious privileged asshole that actively contributes to other people's suffering.