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I think it's that you don't feel older mentally. I though I would feel a certain maturity once I reached an age where I had a solid, advancing career and owned a house. Turns out, I feel pretty much the same and am just better at dealing with things that arise and pretending that I'm mature. My body hurts more and my face looks older, but I don't feel all that different. I'm sure I've mentally changed to some extent, and I notice it more when I talk to younger people, but I still feel the same.
I don't really feel different or more mature or smarter or something, but starting to notice just plain... I dunno, experience? Like I see an 18 year doing something stupid, and I know it's stupid because I did the same thing.
Thankfully, I also still realize just how useful and appreciated my advice will be, so I keep quiet.
But yeah, the BIG generational gap I'm noticing is that I'm okay with playing. Like, gaming, rpg, boardgames, larp. That's cool with my generation and the newer ones. But for the vast majority of 50+ people, admitting that you like having fun is anathema for some reason.
It's weird becaude I never identified with any of this. I never did anything wild and crazy in my teens and so I've never understood when people excuse wild and self destructive behavior as "they are just teens and they'll learn".
I don't mean to say that I've always been more mature than my peers (my humor is very crude and immature)...just that I have never understood being impulsive and reckless, even as a teen.
It's very common for teens to be impulsive and reckless because they're basically biologically programmed to be so. It's not something they can control, really, it's something they're experiencing. If you didn't go through that, it's all good, probably safer frankly, but it's not like people are aberrant for being reckless while maturing.
I didn't say that it doesn't happen to people. I'm just saying I never understood it because I never experienced that and can't comprehend the mindset. I know I'm not the only person on the planet with the same experience either.