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What words, phrases or signs do you use and how do you get your partner's attention?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Married 30 years. Eyebrow position and, "eh?"

"Eh."

And we are pretty much on the same page.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Not 30 years, but usually just looking at each other says enough, with maybe a head motion if it's time to go. Facial expressions say a lot on their own, and if you know someone well enough, even subtle differences can say a lot.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yup, we're only at 12, but a look is enough, we're usually thinking the same thing.

But the other additional one, three squeezes, hands, or whatever can be touched without being obvious, is I love you. Seems sweet, but most often used when one of us is getting pissed off (at something/someone else, not each other).

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

We do the same three taps on the shoulder or hand squeezes for โ€œI love youโ€ too. Hon, is that you?