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Not sure if I fully agree. I've seen many people who grew up in luxury and safety who care a lot about the less fortunate in society. There's also been many instances of 2 siblings growing up in a very similar environment, yet one is very empathic and altruistic and the other one turns out to be a selfish greedy person.
Not that I think you're completely wrong though. What life you're born into has a huge effect on who you become. Yet people seem to deal differently with the cards they've been handed.
If I look at me personally, I feel like it's partially genetic, partially in what kind of household you grow up, and also partially your experiences while growing up. I was, for instance, quite "soft" for a guy which meant I got bullied by the more dominant and selfish people. I just wanted everyone to get along and didn't want to hurt anyone, and because of that I constantly got kicked down. For me it's turned me into someone who still wants everyone to get along, for everyone to get a chance. Yet it could've easily have fallen the other way, where I would've let the hate and resentment for other people get to me and turn me into a more self-centered and distrustful person. I feel like this often happens when people fall into the incel or alt-right movements. I think it's mostly just a combination of how my brain works (genetic) and the support I had at home that kept me away from that. Had I gown up in an environment where my parents would've been more "rough" themselves, I'm not sure it'd have gone in the same direction.