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Only introverted people who dont want to do stuff anyways would download this app. If I had this app I would get insane levels of anxiety waiting for extroverted people to change their minds but if I assume the other person has this app then I will assume they dont want to regardless.
You're describing social anxiety, not introversion.
Exactly. I'm quite introverted, and I have no problem reaching out to people to cancel plans. It's easy, just send a message like, "Hey, I've got a conflict, can we reschedule?" That's it, and 95% of the time they respond with something like, "Sure, the time wasn't good for me either" and it gets rescheduled at some point, or not at all.
Introversion has little to do with social anxiety. Introversion is about comfort and energy. When I go to a party or other large social event, I come home drained and often spend an hour or two reading or playing video games (single player; MP feels social) just to wind down. I may have enjoyed myself, but interacting with other people takes effort. My cousin is an extrovert, so after a big social event, she wants to go to an after party.
You can be extroverted and have social anxiety, and you can be introverted and have no social anxiety. They're orthogonal concepts.
Its not that introverts don't want to, per se, we just aren't prepared at the moment to deal with others.
I take calls all day, offer IT support to entitled doctors. Sometimes I don't even want to talk to my wife after work.
It isn't her, it isn't anyone else having a problem, its just... I do NOT have the energy to mentally deal with people.
So much consideration, and empathy, and shit I just don't possess in great deals. I spend most of that shit at work.
Why is an introvert in a help desk position? Cause I'm fucking stuck here. I lost a GOOD job in the pandemic and I'm trying to survive.
At least I've upgraded my back up job source from retail to help desk. It pays better, has benefits, etc. I can always do it, I just fucking hate it.
Stick with it, man. I did 3 years and now I'm a Sr SecOps Engineer that rarely has to talk with people anymore, and if I do it's other IT guys.
Now when I have to help someone with a computer issue at work it's a treat to help someone instead of something that sucks all your energy.