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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you so much for the honesty ๐Ÿฅฒ I can't express how much it means to someone newly realized. I don't blame you for your past self, I don't think I really understood the idea of trans people even 10 years ago. I love, so much, hearing how it affects your own experience (I assume as a cishet, correct me if I'm wrong) it means a lot to me specifically that you do want to learn and grow.

It's honestly terrifying on this side at times. I don't know if I really knew that people like you existed, but, Holy shit! I'm glad you do! ๐Ÿฅน

Shit is difficult, I'm glad people not directly affected care! It really means a lot!

You are so awesome! ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I'm bi, which is a pretty key part of the stuff I described above - over the course of coming to terms with my own queer identity over the years, I grew to understand on a much deeper level what the LGBTQ community means to me: there are so many sexualities and gender identities under this umbrella that I can't directly relate to, but the differences don't matter compared to what binds us together - I have a hell of a lot more common ground with trans people than I do with the cis-heteronormative mainstream.

I feel it's pretty important to be a visibly trans-supportive cis woman nowadays, because the political climate is scary as hell, and the vitriol spewers don't speak for women, and they don't speak for me. I have a disproportionate amount of power in the "discourse" just by shouting "fuck you, you don't speak for me" at TERFs and the like.

I may not be trans, but trans people are my people and I will fight to protect my people so we can discover together what is possible for ourselves. Things are scary, but my community grounds me.