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Is it wrong for 25M to date 19F? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I'm over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can't put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn't healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Half your age + 7 is literally from a comedy movie. It's not a hard and fast rule.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Eh, it's a good rule still.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

80/2=40, +7=47

Not sure if good....

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

Once you reach that age you can pretty much do what you want. I think if you can pull a 47 year old at 80, you should be good to go.

[–] towerful 12 points 1 year ago

It works well up until the DiCaprio Inflection Point (ie ~30).

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure if your criticism is that a 45 year old should be considered old enough as well, or if you think that a 50 year old is not old enough to make the decision to date an 80 year old.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

If a 47 year old is gonna date someone who's 80, what grounds would you have to say that isn't ok?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What movie? I've heard the rule but never the source.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

OP is full of shit. Maybe it was in a movie, but it's not FROM a movie

Half your age plus seven is an unofficial rule of romance often credited to French author Max O’Rell (Léon Paul Blouet) in his 1901 love manual with the incredibly romantic title of Her Royal Highness Woman and His Majesty Cupid.