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How does anyone believe in monogamy nowadays? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding "the one" and being with them your whole life.

50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.

How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?

Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt

Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I've dated a decent number of men and women now, and I started dating this guy that just felt...right. He's the most thoughtful person I've ever met. He makes me strive to be a better person even when he's not around. Even when he doesn't realize I'm looking at him, he treats strangers and friends with kindness. He has a wonderful spirit.

We clicked really well, and I just don't feel this way with anyone else, even when I was dating them at the time. I never want anyone else but him.

The thing I figured out is that yes, there are certainly others out there that could be potential partners or friends. I'm sure there are lots. But in decades of friendships and relationships, I have yet to come across anyone quite like this. He's in a different class altogether. :)