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Cut out anything that doesn’t bring you joy. Friends always bring you down with drama? Cut them out. Work giving you grief? Look for another job.
Not always easy but establishing boundaries is super important especially for those with White Knight syndrome. You can’t put out others fires if you are aflame.
I am not really agreeing with you on that part. Bad times makes good times feel better and if you are constantly chasing good times you will never reach them since you are never there yet.
Just let it be and you will be fine.
I get what you are saying but life will throw enough bad stuff at you regardless, no need to make it worse with optional toxicity.
E.g. I used to be the person that others would come to with their drama and offer a sympathetic ear from desire to help and do good. Sometimes I offered too much to people who didnt appreciate it. Eventually I had to dial down some relationships or roles to protect myself and prioritise those who are closest and need it most.