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Don't waste energy trying to live life with zero irreversible or undesirable consequences.
Plan to avoid them, sure. Make good choices, sure. Accept that a lot of your learning, growing and opportunities will emerge from irreversible and undesirable outcomes
Yes, life is a continuous stream of irreversible consequences. You just have to make peace with that fact and you can live a much less stressful life. (I say this as someone who has not made peace with that fact yet.)
Agreed. Trying to have a zillion overcomplicated algorithms to avoid minor problems in life is a surefire way to plan your way into anxiety.
Accept there will be minor (and some major) issues in your life that could not have been anticipated and gamed in advance. Get good at problem solving and try to make decisions that bring you closer to your desired outcomes. A healthy balance between food decision-making and reasonable problem solving will get you further than anything else.
Do you mean decision-making on food or generally good decision-making? Not sure on what does it mean by reasonable problem solving, could we have some specific examples? Thank you.
Yeah, sorry. I wasn't talking about food.
The reasonable problem solving I was talking about is trying to make the best decisions you can given the circumstances, and knowing that even though you tried your best in that process, things will not always work out ideally. Being hard on yourself for making POOR decisions is understandable, but beating yourself up for making a good decision that wasn't THE BEST DECISION POSSIBLE is counterproductive.
Giving examples for this sort of thing is difficult because of all of the nuance involved. Just make a step in the right direction every time you can, and your situation should generally be on an upward trajectory because of it. Allow yourself failure because each failure is an opportunity to learn; and if you learn, you also get to count that as win