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I have three teenage daughters who are currently not allowed on social media. But I want to give them some ability before they become adults. My eldest gave me a PowerPoint presentation on why she should be allowed on Snapchat, lol. 

She made some good points. Her friend group has a group text and she wants to keep up with everyone but doesn’t want to get the ding notifications constantly. 

Feels like a good opportunity for a Fediverse platform. Like a closed Mastodon/Pixelfed server and have some parental controls. Any projects out there?

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Oh boy, this has been fun... I never said I had banned my kids from all SM for all time. I was just pointing out the opportunity for a fediverse project.

Some of you are clearly not parents. You can be on the permissive side of parenting style but that doesn't mean you open the entire internet wide open when they hit 13.

She laughed through the entire powerpoint presentation. She thought it was a funny way to bring it up. We never said "no." We told her she had valid points and lets keep discussing. She just turned 15 and this is the first time she asked for access.

And if anyone is wondering, we Ok'd IG because friend group was there too and moving off of Snap because of the number of creeps.

I'm definitely banning them from Lemmy though, lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I've come to find that people with their hearts in the right place (such as yourself) are often attacked or ostracized on the Fediverse, especially Lemmy.

How DARE a person express traditional values??? How DARE a parent not want to be an iPad parent and let their kids do whatever they want???

It's mind blowing and it drives me further and further away from Lemmy on the regular. Keep up the good parenting and if I could offer my advice? Find a better place to ask for things like this, because all you'll get are moronic replies like half the replies here.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I much as I want to introduce my family to the fediverse, I will not. Except for Mastodon maybe. Way to many creeps. Tech-savy, free-tech supporter creeps but creeps anyway. My parents did the same to me at a time when all my peers were into mobile phone and not like today's kids realising how bad it can be. I turned out fine and more knowledgable about the technolgies I did choose to use than average. I wish my parenst have keep supervising me for one or two more years more.
Keep parenting.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thank you!

I had a computer in my bedroom with a dedicated landline for dialup before most of my friends had a home computer. I turned out ok but agree, should have had a little more supervision in that area.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Fortunately, the current teenagers are much more aware of the danger than past generations. In my time, many teens thought parents just did not understand modernity and were panicking over nothing. The cyber-bulling and addiction to social media kept growing but at least the young generation has awareness.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago

allowing Instagram is like rolling out the red carpet for the vampire as a method of inviting it in, and then maybe having the kids lie down so their bare necks are on a silver platter.