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It's interesting the number of comments about parenting advice as opposed to technology suggestion.
For some clarifying points: my kids are allowed on some social media, BeReal, Youtube, Pinterest. They log into our accounts for FB Marketplace.
There is a growing acknowledgement amongst kids that smartphones and social media create mental health issues. All of my kids have asked us to limit their screen time.
I'm not an overly restrictive parent but I tend to ease my kids into things as opposed to one day it's banned, one day it's permitted. Collectively, parental controls suck on most technology platforms and at the end of the day, the corporate SM is still trying to addict you and turn you into the product.
I think what my dream is is for a simple set up of a family server with roles. So you can start with just sharing pictures with grandma and grandpa and then expand into sharing more broadly. But starting the online experience outside off of the corporate algorithms.
Was this unexpected? It has been my experience online that people are more likely to tell you what they think you need to hear than what you asked for.
Well because your original post was kinda misleading.
There are multiple things you talk about:
"Ding-ding" notifications - well you can adjust notifications, to help with not developing an addiction
her group chat - do they want to move their friend group chat to a fedi platform? Or were you just clumsily wording?
family fedi server - that is what you are talking about now, and it's a completely different thing. You could set up a closed-registration mastodon or vernissage instance for that, but tbh I wouldnt recommend using any ActivityPub software for the purpose of sharing private photos and messages with your family. Because there is always the danger of that data federating to all kinds of servers..