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Enbyphobia sucks [CW: Transphobia] (sh.itjust.works)

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Got misgendered and yelled at recently by a trans woman who argued that I'm just a cis person trying to seem special and that I don't understand what it's like to really be misgendered and oppressed. She told me that I don't understand real dysphoria and that I'm just trying to stand out as a "cool dude". Ironically I felt progressively more dysphoric and angry every time she kept calling me a man. It took every last ounce of willpower in me to stop myself from beating her bloody. Now I'm feeling like shit today and probably will continue feeling like shit tomorrow.

Why are some people so fucking terrible.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

Oh, I was referring to how the strict gatekeeping between transgender vs nonbinary puts me in an awkward spot, because it treats nonbinary as completely distinct. I disagree with the premise now, but in early transition it definitely made me feel I had to be a certain way to count.

Funny you mention "she/they". I used to use "they" for imposter syndrome reasons, then moved to preferring "she", and now I'm considering going back. I'm a bit gender fluid so sometimes one feels more right, but honestly I don't want to deal with changing pronouns because that seems annoying to administer.