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[–] [email protected] 161 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I get the "haha" of this particular search getting reported on...but I think that this sort of surveillance is definitely stepping into creepy territory that will end up doing more harm than good.

There were definitely web searches I performed about topics back when I was younger that I would never want my parents to know. When you live in an oppressive household where you are taught never to think outside of the box or be anything your parents don't want you to be, having the internet available is supposed to be a path to liberation.

If they want to set up filters that block certain results, fine. But tattling is just unethical, especially if the child does not know their search history is being monitored by their parents.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago

It's perfect conditioning to accept authoritarian rule, and constant surveillance as normal.

[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago (2 children)

if only there was a Black mirror episode about the dangers of being an overbearing parent.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The thing is, parents get incredibly conflicted messages about this. When a child DOES end up looking at something bad parents get all the blame for not supervising and controlling their child and get called abusive. If they supervise and control their child they get called helicopter parents or abusive as well.

And it's not only regarding the internet. When parents let their children roam, for example, the neighborhood and something bad happens, the parents get the blame and called abusive for letting their child roam the neighborhood. If they control outdoors time for they child, they are abusive again.

It literally doesn't matter what you do as a parent, a lot of people will call you a bad parent or an abuser for it. I believe it is one reason why some people don't want to have children at all. It's basically an impossible task.

[–] xyproto 3 points 1 year ago

When a child DOES end up looking at something bad parents get all the blame for not supervising and controlling their child and get called abusive

Not everywhere. This is typical for the US.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

To be honest, Black mirror is not a prophecy. It merely is a speculation.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

it is not a speculation nor a prophecy lol, it's stories exploring the human condition with technology as the driver of the story

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This sort of oppressive situation is my childhood in a nutshell. And you're right, it's entirely unethical, and in combination with other factors can be used as a factor in psychological abuse. I know I at least am traumatized from it, and surveillance was definitely one of many signifigant factors.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People really underestimate the effects constant surveillance has on a kid.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Exactly. Kids grown in high volume of surveillance (e.g. my nieces) end up being more aggressive towards rules, which creates people who think rules are there to be broken.