this post was submitted on 02 Aug 2023
118 points (96.8% liked)
Asklemmy
43751 readers
1234 users here now
A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions
If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!
- Open-ended question
- Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
- Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
- Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
- An actual topic of discussion
Looking for support?
Looking for a community?
- Lemmyverse: community search
- sub.rehab: maps old subreddits to fediverse options, marks official as such
- [email protected]: a community for finding communities
~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_[email protected]~
founded 5 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Over the 42 years we have been together we must have disagreed about pretty much everything that there is to talk about apart from one thing. Wouldn’t want to be with anyone else. It’s the differences that keep it interesting. There is balance and understanding in everything that we have ever talked over ( or argued, shouted and stomped) and we have never gone to bed angry. Over the time though we have kind of formed into a one that people just hate as we are united and supportive of each others different views and just get on. We are individuals first though and always will be happy with our own company. Oh that just sounds sickly but it’s the way it is!
Damn that looks exhausting.
Not really we kind of both believe that you have to work hard on a relationship we have been friends since 1981 married for 39 years have 3 children 5 grandchildren and can only really remember the good times. I can’t remember a time when I didn’t think that it wasn’t worth the effort.
Work hard when there's problems, sure.
Work hard as a default mode? As a sport? No, thank you.
I’ve been with the same and only person for 12 years, I don’t really think either of us “work hard” at our relationship, bad times yeah, but the vast majority of the time everything’s good and natural .
What’s the one thing you’ve never disagreed on?
Hammer House of Horror Movies, Only thing we both loved at the time and was the reason for us getting together!!
That’s such an off-the-wall random thing to be the basis of your relationship - and I’m totally here for it!