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Daily Discussion Thread: Wed 02 Aug 2023 (aussie.zone)

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This rant/whine requires some backstory.

Backstory

When I got married a few years a (pretty sure I've said this in the past?) I took my wifes last name cause her family are lovely and my family are... well... A holes. All my friends and stuff know me by my new name, anyone who doesn't basically doesn't know me any more. it sort of became a bit of a cull of old "friends" and stuff since I don't have Facebook I don't really have a public presence any more. Which TBH, I like.

This morning was my 3rd encounter with someone from my past in like 2 weeks. The previous 2 all used my old name so before I even saw their face I knew I didn't wanna talk to them. Fortunately the guy this morning didn't recognize me (thank fuck cause I dont have nice things to say to him at all). But why am I suddenly running into people from the past? No offence to these people, but like cant we just pretend we dont know each other? We're not mates any more so why do we have to exchange pleasantries? Just nod so that we recognized each other if you have to acknowledge it at all. No need for the: "Oh man whats new?!" "well, a shit load actually, but we're not really mates so you dont know that hey"

I know I know, I sound like a grumpy entitled arsehole.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Some people feel obligated to engage. As uninvited and unwarranted as it may be. A lot of times it's unintentional and genuine.