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Sartre was on the right track, but looking in the wrong direction (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Nobody - absolutely nobody else - can make me suffer as I've made myself suffer. I am my own Hell.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

That's for the confirmation that it was ok to read. I've definitely put the bulk of any resentment behind, just thought it was worth mentioning in case others feel shame over a technically negative thought towards their loved one.

Another thing I've recognized over posts like these is shame one might feel for feeling relief that it is over...i think that can be acknowledged and accepted as a normal and 'ok' feeling as well. We're not robots and it's a natural reaction to a resolution of enormous stress and is not the same as being happy because of the outcome... Just relief that the pain and choices are over.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

Also, the resentment is kind of shared... Mostly at the resentment that the universe put them in the position where asking something like that is necessary in the first place. I recognize it now as a kindness he was trying to show the others. I imagine myself making the same request but heavily guided by trying to explain how i handled the situation myself.

Fortunately i wasn't put in a position where there was any resentment from my siblings for making the wrong decision.