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[–] [email protected] 9 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

Look. We are talking in circles. So let me leave you off with a quote from one of the most famous feminist writers, Bell Hooks.

It is obvious that many women have appropriated feminism to serve their own ends, especially those white women who have been at the forefront of the movement; but rather than resigning myself to this appropriation I choose to re-appropriate the term ‘feminism’, to focus on the fact that to be ‘feminist’ in any authentic sense of the term is to want for all people, female and male, liberation from sexist role patterns, domination, and oppression. – Ain’t I A Woman: Black Women and Feminism, 1981

Like I said. You are stuck in a mind loop called a false consciousness. I was unable to break you out of it this conversation. I hope that this conversation is a seed in your brain that someday, someone else more able to speak your language waters and sprouts into understanding.

Please understand. You are not talking about "women". You are talking about patriarchy. You are complaining about patriarchy. You are complaining about women who are also stuck in the same patriarchy false consciousness as you are, but from the other side. Your talk about women and greed is a complex intersection of patriarchy and capitalism. They effect each other and support each other.

I genuinely hope you take that extra step towards understanding and abandon your misogynist lens. It is doing more harm to you than you know.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

They need cognitive behavioral therapy to hopefully break them from the notion that their perception aligns with reality.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Deconstruction is what got me out of that ideological mind prison. I would recommend it.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Sadly they blocked me for suggesting they speak with a therapist. They are showing signs of narcissism here that should be addressed.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago

While I think a lot of people need therapists, I don't think he is being narcissistic.

It's unfortunately just very natural for false consciousness to be very isolating and resistant to outside interference. He is acting in the way that the culture and ideologies of his life have trained him to act when confronted with a foundational challenge.

[–] NostraDavid 0 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

to focus on the fact that to be ‘feminist’ in any authentic sense of the term is to want for all people, female and male, liberation from sexist role patterns, domination, and oppression.

That's the dumbed definition of a word I've seen in quite a while. How about:

"advocating women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes."

They may do it by setting fire to a Theatre just to try to kill a single person, like a terrorist group, but at least this definition fits.

The whole "Feminism is for both sexes" has always been bullshit. You know it, I know it, everyone knows it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago

Buddy. That quote is from a foundational feminist writer. You don't know what feminism is.