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I'm retired so I fill my days doing whatever I want. But I'm always interested in what other people would do if they had more free time.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

I already have a lot of free time when my boys go to their moms for the week, and it’s fairly busy when they are with me. Plus I work from home, and enjoy a good amount of autonomy with my workload.

You could say I am balancing both sides of this discussion. But I’ve been dealing with a lot of baggage — both from my marriage and other trauma from growing up — so despite my available free time, I struggle to find motivation to do things outside of the basic responsibilities of being an adult/father.

It’s not for a lack of want though. I have a long list of things I want to do. Some more expensive than others. But even the free stuff isn’t that appealing at the moment.

Ideally, I would like to get into exercising regularly, and pick back up on woodworking. I want to hardscape my backyard by building a stone patio/fire pit, and rebuild my deck. Today it occurred to me that I could build a chicken coop and raise chickens, and potentially sell the excess eggs for a little extra income. I also have to paint and decorate my house.

I suck at motivating myself. 🤣

[–] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

Brother, I hear you and I feel you. I know all about baggage. Just let it go little by little if you can't let it go all at once. You got this!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks! I’ve been in therapy for the past year and a half, and have been doing all of the hard work. I’m definitely in a much better place than before, but I’m still stuck in the freeze. I’m sure it’ll come back eventually, but right now, like you said, I’m just letting it go little by little. 😊

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago

I'm with ya in spirit, friend.