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I can tell you exactly what I do, because 25 years ago, I chose to forgo promotions at work and prioritize free time and quality of life over money:
I spend time with my family.
I do the things I want while I'm still young (or rather, while I was still young π).
Generally leading a good life free of stress and drama.
You were given only one life. You have a finite set of hours on this dirtball, and the countdown is running. Every extra hour you give to your employer in exchange for money is an hour you don't spend with your loved ones, and you can't buy it back. Retirement age is too late to enjoy your life.
Nobody goes to their graves thinking they should have worked more.
My hero! I just recently retired at 55 for same reason.
I'm the same age and I've been retired for 25 years π
I have a job I really enjoy that I do a few hours a day, for the money sure, but also for fun. And then I enjoy a lot of extra hours doing the things I want.
It's like retirement but with a few hours of fun stuff I gotta do every day, sure, but it's still fun. When I retire for real, I just won't do the few hours of fun no more.
I would have if I could have. But I had to wait until I hit the "20-years in" mark to be able to get my pension. It's the lowest pension because I'm out early, but like you, I wanna enjoy stuff while I'm still fit and healthy.
My gf is 35, so she kinda sorta tried to talk me out of it. She's fine with our age difference, but I think she got caught up in "OMG you're getting a pension!" haha
After she noticed how much I mess around and do whatever I want now, she sorta changed her attitude. But I'll be honest, she seems to be a little passive-aggressive. Maybe jealous of it?
Even tho she makes more money than I do, she seems a little bit resentful, so I dialed back the "Oh I just read this really good book all day" comments.
Not sure if our relationship will make it. But I don't care. I have no regrets about retiring early. And now I get to fuck around on Lemmy all day too! haha