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Filmmaker Jeff Baena -- best known for directing films like "Life After Beth" and "The Little Hours," and the husband of Aubrey Plaza, has died ... TMZ has learned.

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[–] [email protected] 85 points 3 months ago (13 children)

Geez.. I swear to god if my obituary opens with Wife's Name's husband, I'd be pretty bummed.

Suicide, also. Dang.

[–] [email protected] 78 points 3 months ago

Marrying my wife was the best decision I ever made. I would be happy if people continue to associate me with her in any context after my death regardless if I survive her or not.

In the end, am I gonna care?

[–] dudinax 67 points 3 months ago

If I were married to Plaza I'd want it mentioned every time.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Why? I'm my wife's husband as much as I am anything else, and plenty of people refer to folks as "John's friend" or "Erin's husband" to identify them in context.

Also, would you have known who this was if they didn't? Some would for sure, but a lot of people who care about his films still might not have put the pieces together without Aubrey Plaza's name in there, so I don't see the issue.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I don’t disagree with it being there but it wouldn’t feel great to be the leading description. "Director, filmmaker, and husband of" would emphasize his accomplishments.

Meow that I think about it, Idk why we're debating a TMZ headline. Sorry and good day.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

Fair enough, but that's such a minor difference that I can't imagine caring about it if I, personally, were the subject. I am definitely not calling any/everyone who feels differently ego-centric, but ego is the only reason I specifically could imagine being offended by that. Not looking to start a debate over TMZ at all haha, was just wondering if there were particular issues folks had with it that I wasn't thinking of.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Well meow I want this autocorrect on my phone too!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

im also going to go put that into my auto correct right meow

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Also, would you have known who this was if they didn’t?

I didn't know he was married to Aubry, so while she is better known it did not provide enough information to be put first.

"Director Jeff Baena, Aubrey Plaza's Husband, Dead at 47" is the exact same words in an order that is better at putting the subject of the article first.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago

Yes. But see, need optimize headline maximum eyeballs, maximum ad revenue. Aubrey Plaza number 1. More eyeballs.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I stated how I'd feel about it. I didn't say you should feel that way. I guess I'm fucking wrong though, forgot I was on the internet for a moment.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I was curious why you felt that way, not saying you were wrong. It was an interesting reaction to the headline, so I was looking to discuss/understand it, not debate.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 3 months ago

It made him feel like less of a man for a minute and he had to understand how women feel when they are diminished by being called “Mrs.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Uhhh I’m not sure if you’ve heard about how women have it but it’s almost always like that for women

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 months ago

well then, I entirely retract my statement. thank you for setting me straight.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Your feelings are valid but the opposite view is also perfectly reasonable.

I would be proud of my wife for being so successful (or, I would have been while I was still alive).

There’s no shame in being in your partner’s shadow. It should be a source of pride and enjoyment instead.

To take an extreme example, look at Dolly Parton and her completely not-a-celebrity husband. Do you think that Dolly Parton’s husband is embarrassed that he isn’t famous or that he’s just thrilled to be married to Dolly Parton?

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

This is literally the first I've ever considered that fact that Dolly Parton might have a husband. She's such an icon that she practically transcends such mortal trivialities.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Apparently he owned a paving company and has never, ever wanted to be even remotely famous. IIRC, she said he really did eye a pretty redhead at the bank when they were first married, but it was a nothingburger, and she had to make up the name and mine her own psyche pretty deep to come up with the insecurity of the speaker in Jolene.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If he hadn't been married to her, this article wouldn't even behave been written.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Just means your wife's more famous than you. Be proud of her.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (2 children)

allright dude. when I kill myself and my obituary says "actually noteworthy person's relation, (me)" I'll whisper how proud of them I am as I fade into the afterlife

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Nah you won't give a fuck either way because you'd be dead.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I guess it matters more to you that you feel superior to everyone around you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago (1 children)

pretty sure you got it backward, guy. I just said it'd be a bummer if my own death announcement started with someone else's name, that's all.

you're telling me, because you know me, that I feel a need to be "better" than others, but you don't, and you are thus better than me. kudos, you win your internet argument.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 3 months ago

Whatever you gotta tell yourself to feel better.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago

yeah they were together for a good while also. its just awful.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Why? Most people know who Aubrey Plaza is. Most people don’t know him. It helps anchor the headline with who it is.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

I BARELY know who Aubrey Plaza is, I guarantee I wouldn't have known her husband just by his name alone.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

I think its fair. Sometimes I go months referring to her as my wife because it's weird to refer to her by name with those who don't known her.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Can’t wait for my Oprah’s dog walker’s cousin found drunk article.