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I was in a shitty relationship with the brother of my shityy ex best friend. We all lived together for several years and the short version is
she made most of the money
I contributed what I could while working more hours at a worse job for the first couple years then working while in school for the rest. My parents were also contributing funds.
he was completely jobless pretty much the entire time
they both constantly complained at me for not doing most or all of the housework and when I would breakdown from it they would mock my mental illness
When things finally all went south I picked a fight with her as she moved out over a small sentimental item I knew she would be too stubborn to not fight back over and got him to fight with her over it until they blew up at each other then cheated on him with a guy who honestly just kinda moved in and steadily started taking care of me (did I mention I was working in a hospital while in nursing school all through 2020 while supporting my leech of an ex?)
This other guy started doing my laundry and cooking for me while my ex just ...kept playing video games. Later my ex was like "I did notice that you stopped fighting with me about chores" yeah that was you getting replaced by an upgrade dipshit. He says I traumatized him. I hope so. I hope he never does any of that to anyone else ever again.
Still with the other guy. He's a mess too but not nearly as much and in a lot of the same ways as me and he's never not had a job and oh also I've never had to threaten to bathe him by force.